tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post710621763380234579..comments2024-03-28T21:45:05.911-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 183 - "Worth it" and Political RecapDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-69469514316283999642016-12-12T07:15:37.544-08:002016-12-12T07:15:37.544-08:00That's exactly what I am up against. One littl...That's exactly what I am up against. One little drink immediately "calls for another" vis a vis brain chemistryTomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-8987303070359024062016-12-10T08:35:46.458-08:002016-12-10T08:35:46.458-08:00Moderation with consequences would be an ideal for...Moderation with consequences would be an ideal for me, but I think the consequences for me would have to much more severe than they are now for it to work with me. I can go days and days with no alcohol, and that doesn't bother me at all. The problem is, once I have one, it usually becomes four or five and, as I said in the post, it's not that I decide to do that despite the consequences. Rather, I just don't think of those consequences at all.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-86308259407465158592016-12-10T03:18:43.889-08:002016-12-10T03:18:43.889-08:00Very true Dan, but there is a plus side - I used t...Very true Dan, but there is a plus side - I used to drink quite a lot socially, perhaps three or four times a week and it had started to affect my work performance, my health and our relationship. Once my wife decided enough was enough , we agreed on the solution: not total abstinence but rather control and moderation with consequences. Within a year I had lost so much weight that I went back to the size I used to be at university! so I can't really argue against that or any of the other benefits. CRMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-91472822715124345292016-12-09T14:42:58.160-08:002016-12-09T14:42:58.160-08:00Good luck and Merry Christmas
AlanGood luck and Merry Christmas<br />AlanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-73562894080933203112016-12-09T14:07:18.054-08:002016-12-09T14:07:18.054-08:00Thanks, CRM. This seems to illustrate that if a w...Thanks, CRM. This seems to illustrate that if a wife really wants to, she has the power to make almost anything "not worth it" if she is really determined to do so.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-25326972792289475042016-12-09T10:53:37.053-08:002016-12-09T10:53:37.053-08:00My wife firmly believes in preventative action - S...My wife firmly believes in preventative action - She will give me a 12 stroke caning before we go out to any social gathering that I don't feel partial to attending. This will be doubled on our return if I have been less than charming. Where Alcohol may be involved, I get to decide how many drinks I want before going out, then I receive a caning for each drink prior to leaving the house (12 strokes per drink) - if I exceed the agreed amount of alcohol, then the next day I can expect to receive double the amount of strokes plus the extras for each additional drink taken and and a further spanking if my behaviour was boorish as a result of my drinking. Thankfully this has only happened a couple of times in the last ten years or so. As you can imagine I am now a very light drinker! <br /><br />CRMAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85713974165711187992016-12-08T11:42:48.203-08:002016-12-08T11:42:48.203-08:00We do the same. Honor denial is what we call it. ...We do the same. Honor denial is what we call it. Honor chastity it could be. The device is trust or honor not a physical device <br /><br />Tease and deny is a tortuous game when the denial extends to weeks <br /><br />irusernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-84700109109353730952016-12-08T08:01:28.301-08:002016-12-08T08:01:28.301-08:00Alan
Thank you! Trust me I intend to take care of...Alan<br /><br />Thank you! Trust me I intend to take care of Christmas Eve family gathering in just this way. <br /><br />AnnaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-80484870899747619452016-12-08T06:58:22.405-08:002016-12-08T06:58:22.405-08:00Peter
Your situation sounds a lot like mine. You a...Peter<br />Your situation sounds a lot like mine. You are almost certain to get into trouble with her on that ( Thanksgiving) occasion. Why not just deal with it before the event and avoid the family drama.Ask Anna to administer a preventative next family gathering. It really works especially if the spanking happens not more than 24 hours before hand.<br />AlanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-78535698166047523502016-12-08T06:43:44.019-08:002016-12-08T06:43:44.019-08:00Personally, I hardly talk politics with anyone the...Personally, I hardly talk politics with anyone these days. If I thought talking, arguing, whatever might make any difference I probably would step up. But I don't think so.Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-38351692914997896682016-12-08T05:31:02.357-08:002016-12-08T05:31:02.357-08:00:-):-)Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-59904579742508145372016-12-07T20:54:10.260-08:002016-12-07T20:54:10.260-08:00between u and me.. felt i was taking one for the t...between u and me.. felt i was taking one for the teamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-10980074355584777122016-12-07T17:20:31.811-08:002016-12-07T17:20:31.811-08:00Peter, it sounds like at the very least you need A...Peter, it sounds like at the very least you need Anna to talk to your sister and explain to her the wonders of using DD to bring about harmonious family gatherings, so that if your boorish BIL insists on instigating such discussions maybe he gets the same treatment? :-) <br /><br />Have to be honest, this one may very fall into the category of "Worth IT"!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-22183160113246939632016-12-07T15:14:45.092-08:002016-12-07T15:14:45.092-08:00Dan
I have to admit that I was totally at fault fo...Dan<br />I have to admit that I was totally at fault for getting into the fuss over politics with my brother in law on Thanksgiving. Before we entered the house Anna reminded me to not argue no matter what my brother in law said to bait me. I promised to keep the peace. We were not in the house two minutes my Mom pulled me into kitchen and literally begged me to hold my tongue. I promised again i would not say a word.<br />I lasted till the pumpkin pie, and I hasten to add i had no liquor stronger than a glass of a rather inferior Pino that my BIL had brought. Anyway he went off on how inferior Obama was and what a relief to have a man with sense like Trump. My fear of my wife's brush, my love of my sweet Mom who had cooked for hours went right out the window.<br />When we got home I didnt need to be told, while Anna got the boys to bed I stripped and waited with my nose to the wall and waited. The waiting always bothers me more than anything. I will say the disappointment in my Mom's eyes when I behaved badly, hurt more than the brush.<br />Peter<br />PS I will say the second nite of the brush it just hurt. The third nite i vowed that at Christmas I will allow Anna to sew my mouth shut. Ah the holidays!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-24885280949576268912016-12-06T14:56:11.935-08:002016-12-06T14:56:11.935-08:00Yeah, no shit!Yeah, no shit!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-44595652811035036632016-12-06T14:03:51.664-08:002016-12-06T14:03:51.664-08:00Thanks and don't feel bad about imprecise poll...Thanks and don't feel bad about imprecise polls. Half of the nations pollsters seem to have the same problemAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-12223969815318384882016-12-06T13:59:13.434-08:002016-12-06T13:59:13.434-08:00Ouch! Yes, words do have power . . .Ouch! Yes, words do have power . . .Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-65916908960571447952016-12-06T13:57:03.121-08:002016-12-06T13:57:03.121-08:00That probably qualifies, though once again one of ...That probably qualifies, though once again one of my polls seems to have been less than precise.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-13403837939737390362016-12-06T07:45:11.135-08:002016-12-06T07:45:11.135-08:00Man, I must have cursed myself or something by wri...Man, I must have cursed myself or something by writing that last entry about the doubling. I have been doing everything right vis a vis the productivity stuff. And in fact it is making me feel better about myself in general.<br /><br />But I got careless about something else that I was spanked for within the last couple of weeks; and before that a couple of months ago. Also it has safety implications for our home. So last night I got my "reward". I can't even report what implements she used because I didn't actually see them. But I was desperate for it to be over. Begging and apologizing was a waste of breathTomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-57422872652625170672016-12-06T07:30:42.819-08:002016-12-06T07:30:42.819-08:00Hi Dan
A question about your current poll. Does e...Hi Dan<br /><br />A question about your current poll. Does enforced chastity and orgasm denial include simply being forbidden to masturbate .That has been my status for a long time but I don't feel she has me in chastity ( no mechanical devices) and orgasms are definitely regulated but not really denied .<br />AlanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-36558353823186005902016-12-05T12:03:52.510-08:002016-12-05T12:03:52.510-08:00More rigorous and consistent enforcement of the DD...More rigorous and consistent enforcement of the DD regime we already have in place. And, my own incentive to suggest alternatives is low because, as you will note, this whole topic is about things we do that we enjoy to such an extent that we will risk punishment, even when our spouses want the behavior to change. That being the case, she is the HoH, she is the Leader in our FLR relationship and, therefore, she can decide what she wants to try to address things if she wants to do so.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-55259246155652561542016-12-05T10:43:28.987-08:002016-12-05T10:43:28.987-08:00BTW, I updated this post with an "inspiration...BTW, I updated this post with an "inspirational" postcard that I thought was pretty damn funny and fit the topic.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-38582103942131788882016-12-05T10:42:45.102-08:002016-12-05T10:42:45.102-08:00Priceless!Priceless!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-9957383469785295262016-12-05T09:37:33.055-08:002016-12-05T09:37:33.055-08:00I like to play practical jokes on my wife. Most ti...I like to play practical jokes on my wife. Most times she's good hearted about it. A couple years ago I put ben gay on the toilet seat. She was grumpy that day to begin with and when I got to work the text message arrived that she didn't think it funny and will be " discussed " later. True to her word, when I got home she was sitting at the dining table paddle in hand. As penance was being delivered she asked if I still thought it was funny ? I laughed a little making the session much harder and longer. Yea. It was worth it. LolJrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387985161853012515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-20283418127510753342016-12-05T08:47:04.453-08:002016-12-05T08:47:04.453-08:00Dan;
Thank you for the response.
I did underst...Dan;<br /><br />Thank you for the response. <br /><br />I did understand that you started your relationship sometime after you were married. I did not understand that there was disagreement, over that issue, before the discipline relationship began. I think, though, that my question was not answered. <br /><br />"What response or action from Angela would have the greatest impact RESULTING IN YOU MODERATING YOUR DRINKING?"<br /><br />JackAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com