tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post6223609909959079545..comments2024-03-28T21:45:05.911-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 213 - Windows and Other EmbarrassmentsDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-34755682096746706392017-07-14T06:39:57.553-07:002017-07-14T06:39:57.553-07:00Hello Dan, I'm sure there has been some accid...Hello Dan, I'm sure there has been some accidental exposure in the past. My ex-wife told our best friends about our relationship which was embarrassing since we saw them a lot since we shared a vacation home. The only comment made by friends wife was she told me she spanked all their boys. Didn't know what to reply. Just last week a female friend came to visit our new home and was touring our bedroom and saw a paddle hanging over the back of one our chairs and I could see she saw it but she didn't mention anything. It seems the older I get the less I care about people finding out. John Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-8805947268612951642017-07-14T05:03:49.746-07:002017-07-14T05:03:49.746-07:00PS.....there's a topic for you! In looking at ...PS.....there's a topic for you! In looking at a lot of the comments, there is a theme of satisfaction at the ability to get a spouse to 'back down' merely by issuing a warning. Perhaps that could be explored a bit more? There HAS to be a powerful rush for our ladies in wielding that kind of power.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-21765521858346663652017-07-14T05:00:09.129-07:002017-07-14T05:00:09.129-07:00Actually, that is exactly how it is for me. Rosa d...Actually, that is exactly how it is for me. Rosa doesn't do it too often, but she has .....and I am sure will again....... give me a blunt warning in front of people we know, or even in public if she wants me to behave. I think my knowing she definitely will follow through on these warnings makes me change whatever I'm doing and I guess when others see me fold like that.....I will tend to blush. (And I don't blush easily.) <br /><br />Those little scenes of authority, with me obviously meekly backing down under threat of a spanking, seem to resonate powerfully with certain 'friends in the know' who are present as witnesses, with Marta probably being the best example.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-50177836872907803222017-07-12T08:20:05.442-07:002017-07-12T08:20:05.442-07:00Very good points, Anonymous.Very good points, Anonymous.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-22847536208554091142017-07-12T08:17:13.403-07:002017-07-12T08:17:13.403-07:00Hi Coasstriders:
Thanks for your comment. It make...Hi Coasstriders:<br /><br />Thanks for your comment. It makes me feel good that other couples are encountering the same dilemmas as us. Like you, I'd like to thank Dan for administering this forum especially since it seems to encourage quite sincere dialog. Thanks Dan!Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11839716738950543162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-86149834173183360232017-07-12T08:15:58.060-07:002017-07-12T08:15:58.060-07:00In addition, if you are caught in public, it may c...In addition, if you are caught in public, it may constitute an act of assault and battery as many states do not accept consent as a defense, and if you husband is partially naked, it could result in a charge of indecent exposure. In recent years, indecent exposure has been treated as a sex crime in some states, leading people who are convicted of it to be placed on the sex offender registry. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-45517831858134172702017-07-12T07:42:49.975-07:002017-07-12T07:42:49.975-07:00Thanks, Anonymous! Let us know how it goes.Thanks, Anonymous! Let us know how it goes.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-3298493689107492062017-07-12T07:42:26.572-07:002017-07-12T07:42:26.572-07:00Precocious is right!Precocious is right!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-27393978866612187792017-07-12T07:42:01.774-07:002017-07-12T07:42:01.774-07:00Hi KD. I can understand the embarrassment being r...Hi KD. I can understand the embarrassment being rooted in the misbehavior. Thinking it through, I think being lectured by wife in front of someone would be worse than being spanked.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-87964991468095804482017-07-12T06:23:53.659-07:002017-07-12T06:23:53.659-07:00I have been spanked by other women with Aunt Kay i...I have been spanked by other women with Aunt Kay in the room and by her under the same circumstances. Also in what I would describe as a social "living room situation with men and women in the room.<br /><br /><br />My experience was that if it was a hard spanking, I lost awareness of there being anyone in the room. If it was more on the light/social side I guess I would have to concur with KD about finding it more on the exhibitionist/fun side.Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-13580543073610360062017-07-12T05:16:04.281-07:002017-07-12T05:16:04.281-07:00Hi Dan,
Don't know if this counts, as it hasn...Hi Dan,<br /><br />Don't know if this counts, as it hasn't happened but...<br /><br />We are on vacation and staying at a place in close proximity to kids and my wife's family, so discipline is difficult here - but I've been on my best behavior. However yesterday I did sonething to annoy her and she said:<br />"If that happens again we'll take a little walk out to the woods, I'll find a switch and you’ll drop your pants and bend over for me." She has never suggested anything like that before so I was surprised. I said:<br />"No, you wouldn't do that."<br />She reached around and tapped my butt a couple of times and said:<br />"Don't test me."<br />I wouldn't like it, but it does excite me a bit that she would even think about it. She has been getting more in to the FLR thing recently now that she can see the benefits, and has even taken to wearing the key on a chain around her neck when she tells me to wear the chastity device.<br />Fantastic forum, thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-23833917039411591222017-07-11T23:45:56.610-07:002017-07-11T23:45:56.610-07:00The first and most memorable witnessed spanking wa...The first and most memorable witnessed spanking was when I spanked him, pants and undies at his ankles, in front of his first vanilla personal trainer the first time. She and I had sort of arranged it ahead of time. First time she had seen anything like that, and hubby was not in on it at all. Total surprise. He actually begged me to be allowed to keep his pants up in front of her! Ha ha! He was so embarrassed that first time! He got a hairbrushing across my knee for not keeping his food diary, and she was the one to suggest that I be sure to spank him on the backs of his legs as well. By the time I was done, I was quite sure she had seen everything there was to see of him, as if she was his Doctor. Looking back on it from my blog, I started spanking him in October 2011, and this took place in November. What can I say? Precocious gal!juliesphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02856609580815309314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-7687079003152536782017-07-11T14:14:40.068-07:002017-07-11T14:14:40.068-07:00Tina, you have brought up some topics that my wife...Tina, you have brought up some topics that my wife and I are very interested in because we live in these grey areas day by day. The normal life vs DD life for instance . Dan I'm guessing you gave discussed these before but I'm also guessing there are many new couples to your valuable blog. Thank you for the forum Coasstridershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10042672210322522457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-64339164856571301812017-07-11T12:50:57.913-07:002017-07-11T12:50:57.913-07:00I'm not sure what I can add to this that I hav...I'm not sure what I can add to this that I haven't already written about before. Suffice it to say that for me witnesses.....whether visual or just via overhearing.....are definitely an added embarrassment, and not something I am unaccustomed to. Much of the embarrassment however, is rooted in the 'misbehavior' though. I have also participated in semi-fun spankings in all sorts of settings with other people around and once you take out the embarrassment of having been caught doing something wrong and subsequently being spanked for it, the act itself even with witnesses, is more like painful, exhibitionist 'fun'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-20972969419081275742017-07-11T05:35:38.189-07:002017-07-11T05:35:38.189-07:00Hi Dan could I add one more possible topic, that p...Hi Dan could I add one more possible topic, that personally intrigues me, about the DD/FLR relationship?<br /> <br />The whole area of DD and FLR involves major psychological and emotional feelings between the participants and the actual act of a wife/partner spanking their husbands and causing intentional pain - seems the antithesis of a loving relationship. Has the introduction of a DD/FLR resulted in a deeper love and respect between the partners or has it merely created a responsibility for the wife/partner to try to satisfy a desire of the hubby? Have the lives of the partners been brought more closely together or has the implementation of discipline over the longer period become no more than a chore to the wife/partner? <br /><br />Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11839716738950543162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-63204408238340920542017-07-10T13:43:39.390-07:002017-07-10T13:43:39.390-07:00Hi TB. That is a very interesting and perplexing ...Hi TB. That is a very interesting and perplexing change.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-44310433959965508112017-07-10T13:42:35.317-07:002017-07-10T13:42:35.317-07:00Very interesting!Very interesting!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-16667647768392469242017-07-10T13:42:13.408-07:002017-07-10T13:42:13.408-07:00These are good suggestions. Thanks, Tina!
These are good suggestions. Thanks, Tina!<br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-1675944772927246472017-07-10T13:41:42.829-07:002017-07-10T13:41:42.829-07:00Hi Alan. We do all have our own individual things...Hi Alan. We do all have our own individual things that get our motors running, don't we? Public punishment does do something for me, though not nearly as much as the whole woodshed fantasy. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-72839961098477067822017-07-10T13:39:27.942-07:002017-07-10T13:39:27.942-07:00Agree 100%Agree 100%Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-5850796246393353712017-07-10T13:39:04.123-07:002017-07-10T13:39:04.123-07:00Hi Tina. I think you make a VERY good point about...Hi Tina. I think you make a VERY good point about not imposing this lifestyle on other people. Particularly anywhere that kids might be around. Thank you for reminding us of that.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-36311568081219536842017-07-10T12:09:20.213-07:002017-07-10T12:09:20.213-07:00And I wanted to add that I have been acquainted wi...And I wanted to add that I have been acquainted with someone who had zero sense of boundaries on matters like that. He was an offensive individual who thoughtlessly imposed discussion of his personal lifestyle on just about anyone he came into contact with.Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-42797719709070085682017-07-10T12:05:47.408-07:002017-07-10T12:05:47.408-07:00I especially appreciate Tina's thoughtfulness ...I especially appreciate Tina's thoughtfulness about exposing our little fetish activities to a public who do not wish to see things like that, would likely not understand it, and could possibly be offended. And as she also mentioned; it could bring unwanted scrutiny from people in different authority positions with legal powers.<br />Tomy Nashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06208893789610692117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-54057135114577770052017-07-10T10:24:31.557-07:002017-07-10T10:24:31.557-07:00Outdoor play to me has always been exciting and ad...Outdoor play to me has always been exciting and adventurous. I love the thrill of being completely exposed (at least he is) with that excitement and undercurrent that someone may see us - but having said that I am always ridiculously careful that no one would see us. There are several reasons for this security but it is mainly that I do not believe I have the right to try to impose our lifestyle on unsuspecting members of the public who may not have any appreciation of the consensual nature of our FLR relationship. If I spanked my hubby in a public place there would be the risk that children and/or adults present would be offended. If a child is spanked in public these days the police and social services would be immediately called. A woman being spanked in public would result in accusations of abuse. A man having his pants taken down for a public spanking may cause some initial amusement in this era of "girl power" but it would still be met with resentment by those who feel it entirely inappropriate. In addition to the public acceptance reason, I never wanted to humiliate Tim in a public place. I enjoy the natural humiliation of him having to kneel in front of me, presenting me with an implement, taking him bare bottomed over my knee or having him bend over the end of the bed for a hard spanking or caning - but that is between us – not the world. Sometimes (on purpose) one (or more) of my cane strokes may find its way too low on his thighs leaving a nice exposed welt - this is always an interesting challenge for him when he is wearing shorts or a bathing suit but it serves as a reminder for him to behave. <br />Having said this, I have enjoyed on many occasions taking him to secluded public places such as the woods off of the interstate, cutting a switch, have him lower his pants and ordering him across a tree trunk or stump for a whipping. It is even more sensuous for me and, he freely admits exciting for him as well to be out in the open. We always are very careful but there is always the reality that when out in the open it may be a possibility we could be seen by others. One occasion in particular comes to mind. On a long car trip he said something in the car that made me really angry. I simply said “your comment was entirely inappropriate and unwarranted and you will be punished” but at that time I did nothing more. We traveled on for another couple of hours stopping for a chatty lunch but after all anger had left me I made a plan. I ordered him to turn down a country road off the interstate until I saw a five bar gate, complete with a no trespassing sign. Although the road was fairly deserted there was still the chance that a car may drive by or the owner of the property might appear out of nowhere, but I still ordered him out of the car, to lower his pants and bend over the gate. I selected a switch from a nearby willow tree and whipped his bare bottom firmly. I kept my ears open for a car engine or someone approaching on foot, but neither came. We both agreed later that the punishment had been very effective and exciting. <br />Overall I believe a spanking should not be delivered immediately after the offense. I think that for him to go through the day (or more) thinking about his impending punishment is far more effective than an on the spot spanking. That way I have time to think about how long, with what implement and the severity of the punishment without the time constraints of doing something immediately - especially in public , which would involve bearing his backside etc. I don't believe I can get the total effect I need, for both of us, if the punishment is impromptu and rushed. We abide by our domestic discipline contract which says that no punishment will be delivered in anger, and this works for us.<br />Tinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11839716738950543162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-75572358150220956842017-07-10T09:25:16.783-07:002017-07-10T09:25:16.783-07:00TB's note above and several other comments plu...TB's note above and several other comments plus my own experiences with semi public or "exposed spankings" ( no UPS driver so far but a grinning sister in law several times)make me reflect on how effective they are in terms of making me think about my behavior. My wife taking my pants down or putting me over her knee is embarrassing but the few times I have been exposed in public have been deeply embarrassing ( even though no one saw it as far as I know excepting my sister in law)In the bad old days the bad guys used to be punished in public and maybe the old timers knew something in doing so. I remain convinced that DD relationships and especially punishment should be carried out in private.But there is something about public punishment or the threat of it that draws me to attention like nothing else.<br />Alan Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com