tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post4891526715327739784..comments2024-03-29T03:08:12.803-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Topic #58Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-66028113309703515392016-10-13T16:54:09.337-07:002016-10-13T16:54:09.337-07:00Do not 'fanaticize" about a spanking /pad...Do not 'fanaticize" about a spanking /paddling from a female--It hurts your bare butt BIG TIME I take an infrequent paddling bare--from my wife----and by that time she has every right to paddle me or do something much worse--I got it coming and I take it---however, my bare butt really hurts---It is an experience I got coming but I hate it---Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-22486358675990102742014-10-04T15:04:04.209-07:002014-10-04T15:04:04.209-07:00HI Bill. I know another business person whose wif...HI Bill. I know another business person whose wife regularly protects the staff from his tirades. Sounds like your wife has things well in hand, so to speak.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-38113563152629679122014-10-04T12:11:40.306-07:002014-10-04T12:11:40.306-07:00My wife and I work together and one day I was bein...My wife and I work together and one day I was being a bit too grumpy with our staff. My wife then texted me to come out to our RV and there she spanked me for my lousy behavior and attitude.<br />BillAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-12492030077135862102014-10-03T16:11:19.201-07:002014-10-03T16:11:19.201-07:00It is also not without it's casualties. One e...It is also not without it's casualties. One early Forum topic (that got almost no response) was for whether readers had friends who they thought really should explore DD. Stressed out co-workers. Friends who clearly needed boundaries. Etc. I can't think of one friend in particular who I think is a poster child for needing some wifely discipline. And I mean that sincerely. He is someone who wraps himself in knots, engages in many of the same excesses I do, and could clearly use some imposed boundaries. Yet, I can't imagine ever suggesting it to him, and I think doing so quite possibly could wreck a friendship.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-2837573063139089842014-10-03T13:46:38.751-07:002014-10-03T13:46:38.751-07:00Please ask your question clearly, and I will try t...Please ask your question clearly, and I will try to answer it.<br /><br />SusieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-69448500911674160732014-10-03T11:36:34.574-07:002014-10-03T11:36:34.574-07:00Like Dan, I also do not have a definitive answer, ...Like Dan, I also do not have a definitive answer, but I would say that our culture would make it very awkward and uncomfortable to be an identified disciplined husband. In today's culture, you might bet a little ribbing if you said "gotta go guys - don't feel like hearing the wife bitch me out" - but you would also get knowing nods, but you sure would get some strange reactions if you said "gotta go guys - don't want the wife taking that damn hairbrush to my ass again". Although, it might be a better world if that were so. :-) But to Dan's point, I think that the cultural inclination probably does derive from our basic nature - not wanting to show weakness around other males. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-85797550285773697582014-10-03T10:15:24.694-07:002014-10-03T10:15:24.694-07:00It's a good question, and one that I'm not...It's a good question, and one that I'm not sure I have a firm answer to. But, I think it has to do with male to male relationships being more hierarchical and "pack" oriented. We're like dogs at the dog park, sniffing and growling at each other, until everyone knows his place in the social order of the pack. And, most of us are trained to be "real men" who not only cannot show vulnerability to another man but our heroes are those who beat up on other men. I think the humiliation from another man knowing about the discipline is directly proportional to the likelihood that another man will see the behavior as, in fact, humiliating. My wife isn't humiliating me when she disciplines; she is controlling me. It's a very different thing.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-53597195263455879732014-10-03T06:02:29.613-07:002014-10-03T06:02:29.613-07:00Yes, but I would like to hear Susie's thinking...Yes, but I would like to hear Susie's thinking. I have heard women say this before and I suspect it's because they know it's no part of the fantasy ( for heterosexual men) and hence real punishment as opposed to the turn on some get from fantasizing being spanked in front of another woman ( I know that the fantasy doesn't match the harsh reality of a real spanking. but there is only that harsh reality being spanked in front of another male, no fantasy to help get through the spanking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-2566099233481277812014-10-03T05:14:22.800-07:002014-10-03T05:14:22.800-07:00Why, fundamentally, do you find more humiliating t...Why, fundamentally, do you find more humiliating than men know that you are punished by spanking when you misbehave rather than women (as long as you assume the need to be punished)?<br /><br />I have an idea of the answer but I'd rather hear spanked husbands first.Doumiknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-18766769661600670132014-10-02T20:30:22.155-07:002014-10-02T20:30:22.155-07:00I think I would be mortified if any relatives knew...I think I would be mortified if any relatives knew. As for friends, we have one friend, female, who knows about our lifestyle. I really cannot imagine ever letting any of my male friends know.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-78918367531968507072014-10-02T13:56:41.180-07:002014-10-02T13:56:41.180-07:00Alan, I enjoyed your comments above. Dan has take...Alan, I enjoyed your comments above. Dan has taken the time and effort to set this group up for disciplined husbands and disciplinary wives (and perhaps those who are not but who fantasize about it or desire the lifestyle.) But, in line with the point you make, we are husbands who are disciplined by our wives - and probably for virtually all of us the heart of that discipline is the bare bottom spanking - tools and positions may vary, but I suspect that otk with a hairbrush or paddle is a staple for almost all disciplinary couples. Sometime back, in response to another of Dan's weekly questions, I posted about that very thing - that the otk paddling is the heart of our disciplinary regimen - but she does sometimes employ additional disciplines such as the enema, strap-on, butt plug, corner time, mouth soap, frilly panties - from time to time as a supplement to the spanking when she really wants to drive home a certain point. For example - getting caught overtly flirting or gawking guarantees me an enema and pegging after a sound hairbrushing. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-56695031661733855642014-10-02T09:24:34.248-07:002014-10-02T09:24:34.248-07:00I'm with Dan on this one - I think it would be...I'm with Dan on this one - I think it would be especially humiliating for another man, particularly one you know well, to discover that you are a spanked hubbie (or bf) - less so (for me at least) for another woman to know. (Dan - this might make for an interesting topic- the idea of another man vs another woman knowing). My sister-in-law did eventually discover our secret - which was embarrassing a bit at first but also somewhat sexy - and now she sometimes assists my wife with my discipline. However, I would be mortified for any of my male relatives to find out. --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-2758770689565121622014-10-02T09:07:46.333-07:002014-10-02T09:07:46.333-07:00That sounds so sexy!
SusieThat sounds so sexy!<br />SusieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-28417714967784812302014-10-01T19:48:57.813-07:002014-10-01T19:48:57.813-07:00Ouch! I can't imagine the embarrassment.Ouch! I can't imagine the embarrassment.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-68679731203374042072014-10-01T19:47:02.434-07:002014-10-01T19:47:02.434-07:00I'm sure most of the men reading this understa...I'm sure most of the men reading this understand that mix of dread and anticipation. Thanks for sharing<br />Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-3409270783022135742014-10-01T17:02:04.231-07:002014-10-01T17:02:04.231-07:00By far the most embarrassing day of my life was wh...By far the most embarrassing day of my life was when my wife told her mother she soanks me and then took me to a room within ear shot of her mom and spanked me to tears. Now her whole family knoeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-19526911698761473902014-10-01T13:26:46.507-07:002014-10-01T13:26:46.507-07:00My wife has never ordered me home for a spanking b...My wife has never ordered me home for a spanking but I once had a serious girlfriend who used a similar technique often. We lived apart much of the time and she would call me up and tell me she had been thinking about something I had done and decided I need a correction or she would say she heard something in my tone of voice and I needed a spanking.. She knew exactly how long it took me to get to her home and she would give me exactly that much time to “ present my bum” It meant I had to literally drop whatever I was doing and practically run to my car to avoid more severe punishment. When I arrived if someone was present she would take me by the hand and usher me into the bedroom where I would be spanked and then sent home without much ceremony or even saying hello or goodbye to her company.. If she was alone she always took my pants down just inside the door and then grabbed my ear and escorted me into the bedroom that way. The most embarrassing memory I have of these was one day she left me a voice mail telling me I had x minutes to get my naughty bum over to her house. Thoughtlessly I played the recording it when a male friend and I got in from a ball game. I will never forget the grin on his face as I hurried out the door blushing all the way to obey her. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-60717816971458987202014-10-01T13:04:35.691-07:002014-10-01T13:04:35.691-07:00Thanks Al. I would say that really is a disciplina...Thanks Al. I would say that really is a disciplinary enema with or without a strap on to follow. I don’t think I will be telling my wife about that soon. It seems every couple really committed to DD does it all in their own unique style (like your wife uses disciplinary enemas and my wife doesn’t (yet, lol) But in the big picture we mostly all have similar practices designed to mix control and discipline with love and nurturing. A blog like this is so great because it gives us a chance to both swap experiences and learn from each other. About my wife being so open with her family about discipline, part of the reason is that she had one marriage with a real jerk and wants everyone to know that’s not happening again. And so when I act like a jerk she goes on a mission Also her mother may have disciplined her dad with spanking. My wife thinks so although never saw it but she did find several paddles. Her mother is definitely not the type anyone disciplined while her father is pretty obedient around her. Also her father never raised any protest when I was taken into another room for a “discussion” I have also wondered if my brothers in law are subject to discipline but every time I raise that subject I am told firmly “that’s none of your business” It could be they aren’t but my wife wants me to think they are to strengthen her control. I would love to know for sure.<br /><br />Alan<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-29759258338586983252014-10-01T11:59:58.980-07:002014-10-01T11:59:58.980-07:00I can relate on two counts. First, I also have re...I can relate on two counts. First, I also have received a couple of long and hard otk paddlings for running up the credit cards without prior agreement. Secondly, my wife does that "call me at work and tell me I have a bare asses paddling coming when I get home" thing at least once a month. It might be for some real infraction - or just because she is in a bitchy mood and wants to take it out on my behind - which I am obligated to accept under our agreement. Anyway, I end up spending the rest of the day thinking about it with that strange combination of anticipation and dread that so many disciplined husbands experience. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-73826201116959534512014-10-01T09:55:54.398-07:002014-10-01T09:55:54.398-07:00One of the agreements my wife and I had was that t...One of the agreements my wife and I had was that there would be no more unauthorized purchases by me since I had run up debt on our credit card. Some years ago I received a phone call at work from her asking about a purchase showing on our bill. I confirmed that I had made the purchase (a new DVD player) and she was irate. She was adamant that I had broken an agreed upon rule which would result in punishment. When I arrived home from work I was instructed to prepare for my punishment which meant waiting for her naked in the bedroom. I was given a severe over the knee spanking for my wrong doing. The hours of anticipating my punishment was as bad as the spanking itself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-74348299115128067362014-09-30T21:31:14.195-07:002014-09-30T21:31:14.195-07:00I so agree with Susie. I feel very lucky that my ...I so agree with Susie. I feel very lucky that my wife cares SO much.Merryslavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11209310275450354399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-21647007327546923642014-09-30T19:17:31.850-07:002014-09-30T19:17:31.850-07:00:-):-)Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-45099674843775259582014-09-30T19:10:32.785-07:002014-09-30T19:10:32.785-07:00Dan
FYI I never used the word punishment ! Trus...Dan<br /><br />FYI I never used the word punishment ! Trust me ! ; )<br /><br />annaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-26447112795615250782014-09-30T17:51:16.520-07:002014-09-30T17:51:16.520-07:00Tell Anna I'm not sure how I feel about charac...Tell Anna I'm not sure how I feel about characterizing reading my blog as "punishment." ;-)Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-87800454193527692432014-09-30T16:18:27.487-07:002014-09-30T16:18:27.487-07:00Very well said, Ms. Susie, and so true. :-) Too ...Very well said, Ms. Susie, and so true. :-) Too bad this forum doesn't have a "like" button... --alAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com