tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post2218383671049280493..comments2024-03-29T03:08:12.803-07:00Comments on The Disciplinary Couples Club: The Forum - Vol. 186 - ChastityDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-66065972858298791722017-01-03T21:58:59.579-08:002017-01-03T21:58:59.579-08:00My wife and I practice tease and denial. There is ...My wife and I practice tease and denial. There is rarely a day that goes by where we don't engage in some sexual activity, though I am rarely allowed to cum, She does most of the time. All of my orgasms are strictly controlled by my wife and I am required to consume every one that is allowed. The constant teasing helps us maintain a very high level of intimacy and it sexualizes our daily life. The contact may be a little as being allowed five thrusts before sleep, a few stokes in the shower or entering her but having to remain perfectly still until we drift off to sleep. Other times she will edge me many times before putting me to bed unfulfilled. Generally I have a minimum number of days to wait and a number of tasks to complete before an orgasm is considered for me. If I have earned a spanking, it must be resolved before I would ever be allowed an orgasam. Though I have been ruined before the spanking if I have really pissed her off. I would never think of cheating on her rules, why play if you can't be trusted. We do use Chastity cages, because she loves the physical symbol of her control, much as if it were a wedding ring. This has greatly added to her confidence as a dominant woman and I no longer need to guide her along or top from the bottom to interest her in this lifestyle. I need the tease part for the denial part to work, but I would never want to go back to just regular vanilla sex. The orgasams I do have are earth shattering and after twenty years of marriage, we are still on each other like the first few blissfull months of dating.Rebophttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04699549322366578333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-80289625230804829782017-01-02T17:46:26.472-08:002017-01-02T17:46:26.472-08:00Sex is very good in our marriage--which is a marri...Sex is very good in our marriage--which is a marriage of nearly 40 yrs. It has nothing to do with my getting paddled which happens occasionally--not often A bare paddling is for really bad stuff on my part-- so I get my bare butt paddled to make up for it---Its not a game or sexual deal---She has just had too much of some of my conduct and it hurts believe meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-35055349822659053032016-12-29T16:48:10.945-08:002016-12-29T16:48:10.945-08:00Hi Anna!
In the past, we usually did not separate...Hi Anna!<br /><br />In the past, we usually did not separate discipline from sex, though that has changed a bit since we started using maintenance spankings and mid-week check-ins. And, I have to admit that while I miss the intimacy, it does make the spanking feel even more like a punishment.<br /><br />Glad to hear you are starting the New Year right, though I am sorry for Peter's bruised butt. Have fun at your party!Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-40954945783260355452016-12-29T14:27:32.118-08:002016-12-29T14:27:32.118-08:00Dan
I feel after any disciplinary action, release ...Dan<br />I feel after any disciplinary action, release is not an option. We have a good strong sex life, so I <br />doubt that Peter masturbates that much . I am sure, he does and to be honest it is ok with me.<br />I do know Peter is less interested in porn on video or photographs, and is drawn more to written <br />erotica. I do know that after a discipline session he likes very much to curl up in my arms as he drifts<br />off to sleep.<br />Anna<br /><br />PS To harken back to the last topic, we are going to a big New Years Eve party. Much champagne <br />and other spirits. Know Peter will be attending with a very bruised bottom. WE do want to start the<br />New Year right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-8052820657786836772016-12-29T14:05:20.260-08:002016-12-29T14:05:20.260-08:00Hi Anonymous. Thanks for the contribution.
DanHi Anonymous. Thanks for the contribution.<br /><br />DanDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-45995379439906982016-12-29T13:45:40.863-08:002016-12-29T13:45:40.863-08:00My wife views masturbating as cheating. She has ca...My wife views masturbating as cheating. She has caught me in the past viewing porn and getting off. I understand her point of view and have accepted her wish that I ask permission to orgasm/ejaculate. On several occasions she has suspected I have masturbated and confronts me. I rarely can deny it successfully. My misbehavior results in a well deserved spanking and loss of privileges. My sexual energy increases significantly when I have maintained semen retention and results in my being extremely attentive to her needs and wants that eventually results in our mutual sexual relief. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-52349115580465476692016-12-29T11:21:31.571-08:002016-12-29T11:21:31.571-08:00Thanks, Alan. That is very helpful.Thanks, Alan. That is very helpful.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-67973310467220112982016-12-29T10:13:12.798-08:002016-12-29T10:13:12.798-08:00Dan,
Will try to answer the question why just from...Dan,<br />Will try to answer the question why just from my experience with two different women. Eventually both banned masturbation but each had a different reason for doing so. With my wife it was about masturbation and her belief males in a relationship should never do it without a woman's knowledge and approval.She doesn't consider it cheating but thinks its selfish and disrespectful. She has no objection to male masturbation itself if the guy is unattached.A lot of this came from bad experiences with men before we met especially her ex husband.With the girlfriend who introduced me to discipline,the masturbation issue evolved much more slowly.In the beginning I would say she wasn't that concerned and went out of the way to let me know she masturbated regularly even naming one of her dildos " Little Alan" But gradually she came to see it as more of a control issue reminding me my penis was her cock and asking me often whether I had played with ( her) cock today.It was probably two years before she told me she wanted to "control" my cock as well as my ass. That was when the masturbation rules ( and consequences) started. She had vey strong feelings bout " limitations" on her authority. So resisting a spanking after orgasm was a limitation on her authority. So was masturbation without getting her permission. So for her banning masturbation was about her authority. But with my wife it was about the integrity of the relationship <br />Alan Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-20441500477884087992016-12-29T08:27:59.809-08:002016-12-29T08:27:59.809-08:00Ed, thanks. My comment wasn't really directed...Ed, thanks. My comment wasn't really directed to whether women "abuse" masturbation as much as men or whether them banning it fair, but was really trying to get at WHY they ban it? Is it because, like TB's wife, they see it as cheating? Or, is it a means of exercising control and showing dominance? Or, something else?<br /><br />iruser, totally agree that would be pretty hot, though mine does not tease me in that way.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-23478221037170382342016-12-29T07:32:16.035-08:002016-12-29T07:32:16.035-08:00It is absolutely hot when she does it and makes it...It is absolutely hot when she does it and makes it known to me that she is about to in the shower or just did. It is a great tease to me that she is satisfied and I am not. A particular favourite is watching her do it so I can learn where to touch to get the desired results. <br /><br />irusernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-35688098561280117562016-12-28T14:59:12.317-08:002016-12-28T14:59:12.317-08:00Here is a pretty good explanation -- http://www.na...Here is a pretty good explanation -- http://www.nateliason.com/multiple-orgasms-men/Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09563013313252503653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-21233344431919322722016-12-28T13:31:37.558-08:002016-12-28T13:31:37.558-08:00Hi Holly! Everything in moderation -- very good p...Hi Holly! Everything in moderation -- very good policy! Hope you are having a good holiday.<br /><br />DanDan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-2142286028923509772016-12-28T13:01:31.104-08:002016-12-28T13:01:31.104-08:00Let's be clear. Not every wife in charge forbi...Let's be clear. Not every wife in charge forbids her husband to masturbate. I never have and don't see it as a problem. If I thought he was being excessive or irresponsible I would counsel him and than if necessary discipline him. But it would be like any other behavior that gets out of control. In moderation I am fine. I do though very much like being in charge in the bedroom.So yes he definitely asks for permission before coming and doesn't penetrate me until I ask.( and not at all if I don't ask) That is something he doesn't want to get wrong.<br />HollyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-16691047391118719392016-12-28T12:43:29.215-08:002016-12-28T12:43:29.215-08:00There may be as many woman who abuse masturbation ...There may be as many woman who abuse masturbation as men who do. The difference is that in our world they get to make the rules and we get to obey them. My wife has a drawer full of vibrators and is very open about using them.But if I "play with myself" ( her favorite putdown for male masturbation) she punishes me. It isn't fair but it works with us<br />EdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-48673324202350589072016-12-28T11:20:45.569-08:002016-12-28T11:20:45.569-08:00Hi TB. I wonder how many wives who have banned ma...Hi TB. I wonder how many wives who have banned masturbation, like your wife don't do it themselves? It is another reason that I've struggled with the concept -- I not only would not get offended at my wife doing it, I think it is kind of hot. <br /><br />I totally get the "guilty pleasure" thing. Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-70505293432445950942016-12-28T10:57:16.279-08:002016-12-28T10:57:16.279-08:00Hi Alan. The hidden guilt feelings are interestin...Hi Alan. The hidden guilt feelings are interesting, as is that she imposed the "no masturbation" rule before she had established other things like spankings. Also, during my brief experimentation with restricting orgasms on my own, the pumping up of sexual energy that you described did happen, but it also tapered off fairly quickly. Although, with life being as complicated as it is, I find sexual energy ebbs and flows for all sorts of reasons, including just the extent to which I am tired or distracted by other things.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-64221922910566424262016-12-28T10:28:44.824-08:002016-12-28T10:28:44.824-08:00We have an agreement that I do not masturbate with...We have an agreement that I do not masturbate without her permission (which would only happen with her present and not in the mood for full sex, and happens very rarely). I adhere to the rule mostly as the question is asked when I am face down about to receive punishment for something else. If I have 'given in' at any time since last spanking it is added to the list and the current spanking is increased. She tends to focus on each misdemeanour whilst I am being strapped so that each 'crime' is dealt with. It is an honour system but I have agreed that I will not lie. It is embarrassing to admit to and I was also brought up to believe that it is a sin. <br /><br />The major plus side of this agreement is that she is my only release, which means that if I want release (and I do - lots!) then I have to woo her and behave. Her view is that she never does it on her own so me doing it is tantamount to being unfaithful. I have to admit that sometimes the need is so great that I do it anyway - knowing that I will have to admit to it and in what circumstances adds to the guilty pleasure :) TBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-31115812276670412712016-12-28T10:13:54.451-08:002016-12-28T10:13:54.451-08:00Good topic probably not well understood. We don...Good topic probably not well understood. We don't practice "chastity" but I am and have been forbidden to masturbate without her explicit permission ( rarely given)and I must ask permission to penetrate her when we have intercourse and to ejaculate ( usually permitted)Any violation of these rules is punishable and many of my early spankings from her dealt with that issue.She shocked me early in our dating when she asked me how often I masturbated and than told me she did not want a boyfriend who masturbates. This was all before she first spanked me.I have come to value her rules about masturbation although originally I did resent them. Some men use masturbation for quick gratification and to avoid intimacy and dependence on a woman and I was certainly one of those.Restricted orgasms also pump up my sexual energy and interest in romance and that has been very good for our relationship. Also she triggered some guilt feelings in me about masturbation I didn't know existed. I had been brought up to believe masturbating was " sinful" and so when she punished me for it it relieved a lot of guilt and opened an intimacy with her. He rules against penetration without permission and ejaculating without permission are things I do to obey her rather than because I believe they are necessary. They have taught me that all sexual pleasure comes from her and that she is in charge both in and outside of the bedroom and that is what they are supposed to do.But I could live without them, something not presently an option <br />Alan Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-38693557667231006552016-12-28T09:45:15.454-08:002016-12-28T09:45:15.454-08:00This is getting way down in the weeds, but can you...This is getting way down in the weeds, but can you explain the mechanics of how you reach an orgasm without ejaculation?Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-88199579997837650022016-12-28T09:43:49.903-08:002016-12-28T09:43:49.903-08:00Thanks, IOH. I used to think that the ability to ...Thanks, IOH. I used to think that the ability to cheat was a big problem with having a rule against "wanking," but the reality is that many behavior-related rules really work on the honor system.Dan - A Disciplined Hubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01588294648648656600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-40581182898459911222016-12-27T19:04:48.803-08:002016-12-27T19:04:48.803-08:00My experience is that 'orgasm' and ejacula...My experience is that 'orgasm' and ejaculated are two of different things. We have sex a lot, like most days of the week, and I don't ejaculate but I do orgasm and it leaves me very full of erotic energy. I'll typically ejaculate twice a week to relieve my prostate. I feel like this subject would be less meaningful to couples who practiced taoist techniques of male orgasm. For example, my wife could careless if I masturbate to orgasm because, without ejaculating, my energy is actually increased for her. Hope this helps, sincerely, BillAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6699266088923868373.post-82283304596339226942016-12-27T19:01:20.501-08:002016-12-27T19:01:20.501-08:00When I was being dominated online by a woman from ...When I was being dominated online by a woman from another city she immediately forbid me to "wank" without her permission. There is no question that this increased my submissiveness. She asked me what my limit was for length of time that I would be willing to go and it was a week. She didn't violate this limit.<br /><br />It was difficult to do and I certainly could have cheated but I didn't as I really liked being obedient to her. Without a doubt this enhanced her power and control and brought dominance/submission to a whole new higher level. I would say if a woman wants to enhance her power and control over her man controlling his orgasm will do it.<br /><br />I_ObeyHer<br />(my FetLife name)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com