Hello all. Welcome back to The Forum. Our weekly gathering of men and women who are in, or interested in being in, Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationships. I hope you had a good week.
This could end up being a pretty painful weekend for me. It was one of those weeks where I let myself get far out on a limb where behavior is concerned. Typically, I wait for her to take the initiative in ordering punishment, but this time I felt like I really needed to take responsibility proactively. So, I sent her a journal entry reminding her that for one of these behaviors, the rule we agreed to is that it would result in multiple spankings, delivered within hours or a day or two of each other, in order to really drive the point home. We talked about "multiples" some time ago, so I'm not going to use it as this week's topic, though it is very much on my mind as I sit here this morning, wondering how I will be sitting come Sunday or Monday. As I think I said when we explored this as a topic, she really has not used multiple spankings much. I think maybe once over the course of our DD relationship, and that time in a limited way. So, I am not really mentally prepared for this, and I am expecting the worst and going through the whole butterflies in my stomach thing. I thought she might start last night, but she didn't let me in on her plans, so I went to bed nervous and full of anxiety about what this weekend may bring. But, enough of that for now.
This week's topic kind of relates to a comment from Mary on last week's topic. She said, "It is not how hard the spanking is given, but how long it lasts." Now, I think her point was more about it making a lasting impression, rather than "lasts" in the temporal sense. But, when I thought about it, I'm not sure we have ever talked about how long our respective spankings really last in the sense of how long each session actually takes. When I am bent over the chair or ottoman and taking a very hard paddling or strapping, it seems to take forever. But, in reality I am sure the whole thing takes well under 10 minutes. Probably more like five or six. But, I've never actually timed one.
A few nights ago I was reading a spanking story in which the wife actually did use a timer. She and her husband had a list of rules. The baseline spanking was 5 or 10 minutes (I forget which) and each broken rule that was being addressed added another 5 minutes. She did include time spent intermittently scolding and lecturing, but if she took breaks to let her arm rest then the timer was stopped, then re-started when the spanking resumed. This system seemed to me to have some advantages for real behavior correction, because every punishment spanking could be the same in terms of severity or each swat, but the duration was really within his control, because he could earn his way out of longer sessions by simply behaving better and not accumulating as many offenses. It would also prevent at least some of the "toughing it out" that Fred pointed out (a couple of posts ago), can occur if he knows in advance the number of swats. And, I have always wondered whether a longer spanking would result in me finally breaking down, as it just kept going on and on with no relief in sight. In our case, she usually takes mercy after my bottom reaches a certain state, but what if the rule was it keeps going for whatever duration I've earned?
How long do your spankings usually take? Have you ever timed one? Does she have a goal for it to last a certain amount of time? Does that vary depending on the offense?
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