Personally, I think I have officially run out of gas for 2016. Work has finally slowed down a little, but only after a crescendo of travel that included flying from coast to coast and up and down one coast over the course of a single week. And every place I went was gray, rainy and cold. The one bright spot also turned into a mixed bag, and I'm relating this only because it bears a little on last week's topic.
A couple of weeks ago, I set a new goal for myself, which was to give up drinking wine. I've noticed that when I have a night that gets a little out of control where imbibing is concerned, or when I wake up feeling like crap even when I didn't have all that much to drink, 9 times out of 10 wine was the drink of choice or a very significant part of the mix. It's just too easy to drink too much of it, and it seems to hit my system so fast that I go right from stone cold sober to very buzzed without a chance to moderate. So, I decided to just stop drinking it. And, I did so for about two weeks, avoiding it even at a work-related dinner where every other person was drinking wine. I instead sipped a couple of beers and let everyone else think whatever they thought about my relative level of sophistication. So, I was feeling pretty good about myself, tracking my day-to-day progress on an app I use to track various habits and goals and congratulating myself as I saw the number of consecutive days without wine growing and growing. Then, at the tail-end of my travels, I went out to dinner with a business contact, and I was again good, sticking to beer, though we had three or four. The problem happened when I went back to the hotel. It is a small place and very into creating a "home like" ambiance for their guests, which usually includes a couple of open bottles of wine at the front desk. The clerk offered me a glass as I was checking in, and without thinking about it at all, I had one! We chatted for awhile, and she refilled my glass again and I took it up to my room, and it was only as I was finishing the second glass that I remembered my "no wine" pledge. It literally did not occur to me once as I was consuming those glasses, even though just the day before I had been patting myself on the back about the self-discipline I was showing! I was really, truly furious with myself for once again not even thinking about a rule before I broke it! Now, this rule had been self-imposed, but my wife had in fact imposed a variant of it by banning me from a particular type of wine that seems to do particularly bad things to me. But, it illustrated perfectly the problem we talked about last week of blazing right past a rule without even making the conscious decision to break it. Damn, damn, damn.
Well, on to more pleasant topics. As I said last week in one of the comments, I am a Christmas junkie. Despite usually being totally worn out and more than a little overwhelmed by the social commitments, I do love this time of year. I love watching the old animated Christmas movies and It's a Wonderful Life. I love coming home and seeing the lights on the houses and all the lawn decorations adorning the yards on our block. I even like walking through the mall trying to find that perfect gift for each particular someone on my list. Which brings us to this week's topic:
What if, if anything, would you like to get or give for Christmas or for the new year that is FLR or DD related? A new paddle or strap, perhaps? Maybe some naughty little DD or FLR accessory? Or, maybe it's not a thing you want or need at all, but better or different behavior or some new DD or FLR practice?
For us, there are a couple of things that come to mind. I did get her a new custom-made paddle. I wanted something that was unique to her, so she'll be getting that as a stocking stuffer. On the less material front, we have been talking a while about doing a DD and FLR "boot camp" and things were just so busy this year that it never happened. I would like to remedy that in the near future, if not this month then early in 2017.
How about you? What do you want Santa to bring you, or what do you want to give your partner to celebrate the season or get 2017 off on the right FLR or DD footing. If you are planning a DD or FLR present, can you let people know where you got it? I've tried to stay away from recommending commercial sites on this blog, to avoid the appearance I might be endorsing them and, frankly, to avoid disclosing personally identifiable information, but it is also good to direct newcomers to places where they can find high-quality or unique DD implements and accessories.
I hope you all have a great week. I do think I will be blogging next weekend, but just in case there is a holiday interruption, if we don't talk, have a great holiday!
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