Saturday, June 11, 2016

The Forum - Vol. 161 - The Empty Nest

Hello all. Welcome back to this week's edition of The Forum -- Disciplined Husbands and Disciplinary Wives.  Our weekly gathering of people who are in, or interested in being in, a Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationship.  I hope you all had a great week and are enjoying your weekend.  Thanks for joining.

It's summer time.  For those with school age kids, finding "alone time" for domestic discipline and other adult activities may have become even more challenging.


But, what about those whose child rearing days have come and gone?  According to the last demographic poll we did, a large majority of our readers are over 50, though with the rise of the Millennial "failure to launch" generation, I realize it certainly is not a given that even "adult" kids will actually get out from of the house and on to bigger and better things. But, some of you out there have gone through the long-anticipated arrival of "empty nest."  For moms and dads into domestic discipline, perhaps for the first time in years there is real privacy and real flexibility regarding the time and place for DD activities.  For those who have had or wanted the wife to take over as a 24/7 Head of Household, perhaps concerns about the kids observing that more explicit command structure have suddenly been removed.

So, this is a question for the older domestic discipline practitioners among us.  What impact did the children leaving your home have on your DD relationship?  Did spankings become more frequent?  Did a previously timid spouse suddenly step fully into the role of HoH or disciplinarian?  Tell us all about the changes.

As always, for those of you who are new to this Forum, please take a moment to leave some comments in the Guestbook (tab above). 

Finally, I am going to be stuck in some concentrated work activity next week and may be slower than usual to approve incoming comments.  Sorry for the inconvenience.

21 comments:

  1. Dan
    Although our "little ones" are not yet even teens they are all ears about so many thing. Anna and I recently lucked out. We were looking for a new home with perhaps some privacy for us. We fell into the perfect home. The master suite includes a small sound proof room that the owner installed for recording. The boys rooms and a guest room and den are on the other side of the house.
    We initiated the space last nite with a long discipline session. It is perfect and takes away the fear the boys will hear us. Anna has great plans. Imagines that during the week I will be sent to my new "work space" and may indeed now be doing corner time etc while the rest of the family enjoys the evening.
    I must say just having this sort of privacy has made us like kids again.
    peter

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    1. Peter, that's really great. I am very envious!

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  2. It's true that when our kids were still at home, we had to take advantage of their "activities" to take care of "business". When we were living overseas (in Provence) this might involve sending them to the village bakery to buy bread and/or croissants- thereby allowing for some time, during which N. could administer some serious flogging or paddling. As they grew up and spent more time with sports (and friends) more time was available - and even more so when they went off to college. And now, when they are 'on their own', we don't have to be concerned with that anymore!

    L.

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    1. L., did you find that once they went away to college the frequency of the discipline or the nature of the DD or FLR aspects of the relationship changed?

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    2. Not a bit! If anything it makes it more likely that J. will spank me "on impulse" (although she always finds a "reason"), but it's also easier to stage more elaborate "sessions"...

      L.

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  3. My wife spanking got my attention prior to a empty house, now, she has taken it a step or two further. I stand naked longer prior to, and after. I feel it last longer she states it does not. Worse is the time facing the wall and on a few occasions a friend drops in, I must stay.

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  4. My wife has as she states improved my punishment, the spanking last longer, I can be as loud as I wish, she continues. I made the mistake once prior to a spanking she just wanted to see my erection, I then had to masturbate for her, I'm told to do that now and again. She even purchase pajamas that make me look like a little boy, sometimes have to wear them the rest of the day.

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  5. Hello Dan, hope you survive your work week. Our last child went off to college seven years ago so it I would say spankings are more spontaneous now. The frequency hasn't really changed much, probably due to my busy work week. My wife has become more dominant, but that has been a gradual development and not associated with the kids being gone. When the kids were in high school you still had time but now you can deliver a spanking at any time.

    Got a severe OTK spanking yesterday for being rude to my wife's friend who was staying with us for a week. It would have taken longer to deliver if we had kids in the house. John

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    1. Hi John. I always think that when our kids are gone the frequency will increase, but as your response points out, my work schedule is probably at least as big an impediment.

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  6. Was the friend still there when you were spanked?
    Dan

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  7. We currently live in a rural setting. My wife seems to have developed a fondness to using her rattan cane on me right on the front porch. It's private with a pretty long driveway out to the main road. So it is very unlikely anyone would just appear without our knowing it.

    Still, I hate the whole idea of it. I find it offensive to be out there in what still feels public. But I understand it for what it is - her choice and my job to shut up and comply gracefully; not that I am all that "graceful" when it is happening.

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    1. I'm sure that is embarrassing even if discovery is unlikely. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Tommy
    Are you saying after its over you dont ever get aroused thinking about it?

    peter

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    1. Ha. I am not a fibber. I never said that :)

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  9. Getting a bare paddling from my wife is infrequent but it has been part of all our marriage--When i get it it is really deserved on my part--my wife has put up with alot ALOT--Most always a paddling just takes place right away and so i just shower real quick and out of shower bend over and hold my shins and she paddles my naked butt--It hurts plenty but when over things are fine are really good between us---I nev er took one paddling I did totally deserve---Only when children were at home and I of course had to wait and come home to get my butt paddled---then I was a little nervous before hand and I disliked that--otherwise not nervous just want to get it over with asap and my wife is sure fine with that--It always hurts on my butt however, it should make my butt hurt or it would be worth nothing---Sore butt is ok for restoring a good harmonious relation between the two of us----no lingering anger or any harsh feelings--Since only the two of us know no shaming or any embarrassment for either of us--It works great for us--we may be really rare

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    1. Thanks, Anonymous. I may be very rare, at least outside this forum. Here, it seems to work for many. And it obviously is attractive to many more, given the number of daily visitors we get here.

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  10. By the way, Moderator, I don't know when you added the "& Disciplinary Wives" to your Blog title. But it's an excellent improvement.

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  11. We always were in agreement when she had every right to paddled my naked butt--It does not happen often but it does happen--Since our children are on their own so when we know its got to happen we do it right away--bare butt in our bedroom with the same paddle--When our children were at home i sometimes did have to come home to get my bare ass paddled--which was ok for both of us---but that was the only time I got nervous before a paddling-=-and it had to be quick--sort of wham bam theank you mam---so to speak--rush hoime strip off --kneel on a our steps and get my naked butt paddled and dress quick and back to work--much prefer just getting a paddling with no delay and when we are no0w just at home to get it taken care of---my wife prefers it as well

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