Hello all. Welcome back to the Forum -- Disciplined Husbands & Disciplinary Wives. Our weekly gathering of men and woman who are participating or interested in being in a Domestic Discipline or Female Led Relationship.
First, thanks to all of you for continuing to visit with us every week. While I was in a bit of a snit last week about some of the downsides, our one millionth page visit is still a milestone worth noting. So, while notoriety is not without its problems, I do thank each of you who make this blog part of your weekly routine, particularly those who pipe up with comments or who take time to tell us a little about yourself in the Guestbook. Thanks for your time and for helping encourage people who are new to, and maybe a little skittish about, this idea of adult discipline and F/m relationships.
A couple of our contributors have recently suggested sex-oriented topics, though with kind of opposing themes. Anna suggested talking about the role of sex in Domestic Discipline, while Alan suggested forced chastity and orgasm control/denial. While I am probably screwing myself out of future topic material by combining them, let's make this week a bit of a free-for-all where the topic of DD and FLR and sex is concerned, under the broad heading of "What role does sex play in your DD or FLR relationship, and vice versa?"
In other words, let's look at it from both angles: (i) What role do sexual related issues and themes play in how you approach your DD and FLR relationships; and (i) what impact do those lifestyles have on your sex life? Some issues to ponder:
-- To what extent is domestic discipline something that overlays a more fundamental spanking fetish?
-- Are sexualized practices, rituals, dress, etc. part of your discipline sessions?
-- Does sex often accompany a discipline session whether after:
Or perhaps before?
-- Do your DD or FLR "rules" include sexual-related prohibitions or practices, like forbidding masturbation or imposing some form of forced chastity?
-- Does practicing the DD or FLR lifestyle help energize your sex life? Does it have any negative impact (other than the obvious impact on our upturned bottoms)?
-- For the women especially, does taking on a more powerful role in the marriage, including something like a real Head of Household position, make you feel more sexually powerful or turned on?
For myself, I don't deny that there is a mix of sexual and non-sexual elements that underlie our DD relationship. If I have to pick one as more fundamental than the other (the disciplinary aspects versus the sexual component) though, just looking at the sequence of events that led us to DD, it seems like the interest in being disciplined preceded, and caused, the sexual reaction. For others, probably a big majority, it seems to work the other way: the spanking fetish or interest precedes the discovery of domestic discipline. People also seem to be all over the map on the extent to which sex is part of the actual discipline event. Regarding whether it has improved our sex life, I think it has improved her sense of self-confidence, which to me is always sexy. Overall, in terms of the extent to which sex is the motivator or underlying force charging our domestic discipline and FLR relationship, I noticed as I was looking for appropriate artwork for today's post, that I often gravitate to drawings that are the least sexualized and that, instead, involve a strong and confident woman just "taking care of business."
Or, "getting the job done."
I hope you all have great week. As always, if you are new to the Forum, please drop by the Guestbook (tab above) and tell us a little bit about yourself and your DD or FLR relationship or experiences.