Saturday, May 28, 2016

The Forum -- Vol. 159 -- The Worst

We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. Jim Rohn
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 "Of course it hurts.  It's a spanking."
We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. Jim Rohn
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Hi all. Welcome back to the Forum -- Disciplined Husbands & Disciplinary Wives. I hope you had a good week.  Mine got crazy busy at the end, so I apologize for not responding to all the comments.  I just ran out of available hours in the day, then I ran out of days in the week and it suddenly became time for a new topic.

I can't say anything in particular inspired this week's topic.  It is sort of a natural offshoot of our polls about severity, but instead of focusing on what we want, it focuses on what we have actually had.  Namely, what is the hardest, worst, most severe, hardest to take spanking or other discipline you have received or doled out?  What led to it, and what impact did it have on you?

For a description of a really exceptional punishment spanking, visit the DWC website and look for "How I am Spanked" under the "Real People" menu.  Make sure you go to the authentic version of the DWC:  http://www.auntkaysdwc.com/.  Another that describes a very hard one can be found here: http://www.femaleledrelationships.com/various-stories/woman-likes-to-spank-men-until-they-cry-fm-spanking-story


Have a great week.  Finally, as always, if you are new to the Forum, please drop by the Guestbook (tab above) and tell us something about yourself.

36 comments:

  1. Hi Dan,
    without a doubt being spanked after orgasm is the worst and the worst of the worst was my first one from the girlfriend who introduced me to DD. She had tried to discipline me early in our relationship after lovemaking. When I resisted ,it became an authority issue with her. She believed i was placing a limit on her authority to spank me whenever she decided it was necessary.Ultimately I gave in to her with her promising it would probably not be something she would repeat. She sent me into the bathroom to do it with instructions not to flush until she checked.I just knew the spanking fantasy was gone after orgasm but had no idea how painful it would be to get spanked immediately after.It was just a shock, and the first time I cried from a spanking and maybe the most effective I have ever gotten as far as its long effect on my behavior and attitude. She kept her promise and never used it again although she did threaten me with another one a few times. I think she didn't particularly like the effect it had on me. But for her it was an authority issue and she would tolerate no limits on that.
    Alan

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    1. Hi Alan. I haven't yet had that particular "pleasure." Part of me hopes I never do, though I have no doubt that for real behavioral correction is probably a great weapon in a Disciplinary Wife's arsenal.

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    2. Dan
      I have used that method from time to time with Peter. In our case I want to see him take himself to orgasm and moments later Peter is on all fours and I give him a sound spanking. It is amazing and not to be used too often. I will say this, every time he has broken out in tears.
      Perhaps this is what you need?

      Anna

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    3. Hi Anna. It may be what I need, though it sure isn't what I want!

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  2. The worst spanking I received from my wife was over a speeding ticket I tried to hide it but she found out she called me at work told me she had found out and to be home straight after work when I arrived home she told me to go straight to the den sit the chair in the middle of the room put the hairbrush and paddle in the chair undress and be in the corner she kept me waiting for awhile when she came in she called me out of the corner scolded me the she put me over her lap she spanked me for a good 10 to 15 minutes when through she always walks me to the bedroom with me naked and a RED bottom and puts me back in the corner !

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    1. Spanked for speeding would keep my bottom forever red.

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  3. It's almost impossible to decide, in retrospect, what is/was the "worst" trashing I got from N. or from J. A number of them were "memorabe" enough for me to remember them... They all lasted a long time, and they all involved a number of "tools", ranging from the kitchen spoon to the riding crop (they also left spectacular bruises on my backside). Yet, some of my worst "memories" resulted from being paddled or whipped 'on the bare' under the eyes of some of my wives' friends - or, especially, of J's sister (who can, if anything, prove to be an even sterner disciplinarian!)

    L.

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  4. I have got to go with the majority here, and say it was being spanked after an orgasm. My wife and I were making love and I'm under strict orders to not orgasm without permission and always after my wife's has had her pleasure. It had been a long while and I couldn't hold back and had an accident, and wife was not very happy. The spanking after was severe and hurt more than anything I had experienced. The worst part I had to orally please my wife afterwards. John

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    1. Thanks, Anonymous. I admit that I have never quite understood the emphasis on orgasm control and no masturbation, but it obviously is a thing for many in this lifestyle.

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    2. Dan,
      Maybe this could offer a topic sometime because it seems to be a central feature of some FLR's but absent in many others. I don't consider myself in "chastity" but masturbation without her knowledge is a serious offense in our house. When a woman controls a man's orgasm's , she controls him in a very powerful and intimate way. I remember vividly the first time a woman ( earlier girlfriend) told me she wanted to control my cock as well as my ass.It thrilled me and scared me at the same time and it still does today
      Alan

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    3. Alan, I have done it as a topic (#55), but it has been awhile. Anna had also suggested doing one on the role of sex in DD, which we've also done, but maybe I could combine the two.

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  5. Hi Dan,

    I am a long time reader/lurker of your blog and enjoy the comments from yourself and readers...until now though had not had any real urge to tell my tale, however the subject matter you brought up this week has inspired me.

    This was with a former Girl friend and Mistress I was submissive too. She was tall and strong to my shorter stature...The incident in question that garnered one of the worst spanking ever escapes me but what transpired during memorable.
    I was in the apartment when a friend was visiting with her niece, The friend was asked to take kids to the pool while she dealt with me...panties down and over her knee I went., No warmup, just started with her paddle,( 5 inches by 8 inches, 3/8 inches thick and 6 inch handle..wicked), I stared to scream and cry, begging and pleading with her to stop to no avail....finally I said "RED" our code word for public scene play, She just stopped for a second and said "there's no coding in punishment, I guess I will just start over"..by this time the her friend had returned to get some towels, she paused to watch me scream and cry like a 5 year old for about 10 minutes more...she said she enjoyed the fact that I was leg locked and had my arm twisted behind me with my red bottom turning purple...after she finally finished i was sent to the corner until the kids returned from the pool....
    Long winded but a true account..one of my most severe ever.

    stevie

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    1. Thanks, Stevie. Congratulations on moving from lurker to commenter.

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    2. Did your girlfriend have a name for the paddle?

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  6. Mine occurred in November. We were on vacation and got into an argument. I ended up calling her psycho. For a couple weeks we were distant but cordial. Finally she came down to my man cave holding a paddle we got several years ago but never used. It's 12-14" long made of mohagany with holes. She said I was going to get the hardest spanking of my life and left the paddle on the table. The next day I got lots done. We went to dinner and a movie and when we got home I pleasured her orally. The following morning she's sitting at the dining room room table drinking coffee and looking at the paper and was in a very good mood. I walked in and she said it was time to have " our discussion ". I said u thought all was ok again? She said all was getting better but still needed to resolve the issue and to bring her the paddle. I returned and handed her the paddle as she moved the chair back from the table. With a smile she said " ok , over my knee ". Since she was smiling I wasn't too worried. Once across her lap she immediately pulled my sweat pants down. Then a change came over her I never saw before. She went into a strict discilpline mode. The lecture went in on forever. Finally she raised her arm and brought the paddle down. I could hear it swoosh before it landed. Omg ! I never felt anything like it ! I actually tried to get away but she had me locked in. I usually try to count the swats but lost track after 3. I don't know how long it lasted but when done I was totally out of breath and a mess. She even said she never saw a deep shade of red with all the purple. She had to help me up but was smiling and happy again and all forgiven. I had trouble sitting and walking for 5 days after. A question for maybe another time. Has anyone ever tried to get out of a spanking ? I sure failed.

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    1. Thanks, JR. Great blending of the last few topics -- severity and long anticipation! It also is a good lesson in not assuming that just because all seems forgotten that it has, in fact, been forgiven.

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  7. I guess I can only dream. There have been a few times a few years ago when my wife spanked me but unfortunately she is not into it and does not see the benefit in it. I guess it seems to me that a light to medium spanking is arousing. freshening. Stimulating. For example I recall on one occasion at least having a mild headache and this was cured by being spanked.

    I dream though of her using spanking as a tool to help me modify my behaviour. Obviously I am not a child so spanking is not a case of a larger person lording it over a smaller person. The reality is that I am an adult. I know what is expected of me or what I want to achieve but I also know that on my own I am a slack dog. For example if I exercise on my own, it's a pretty half baked affair. If I have a personal trainer, then the effort is 100x greater and the results are too. I guess, even though in many areas I am very self motivated, I am not good at continuing on on my own. So just as the personal trainer keeps me on task in the gym, I wish for my wife to help me out in other areas. Alas that does not happen and I just dream. And follow blogs like this that I find refreshing.

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    1. I'm sorry to hear that. I was thinking this morning about how lucky it is when two people can connect through something like this. It seldom is smooth and often takes way longer than we hope for it to really take off, but if it does then you have two people whose interests are in alignment, and that is just a great thing. I'm sorry that you aren't able to have that, at least just now, but I'm glad reading about it serves a positive purpose for you.

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  8. After reading this yesterday, I discussed it with Shilo, and we both agree that the worst spanking I gave him was during our engagement. I actually searched through Shilo's diary to find out when it was. (August 20, 2013)I'm lazy, so if you want more details, I'll add the link in another comment, so if Dan feels it's inappropriate, he can delete it. Most of it was with a wooden spoon, and the effects lasted well over a week if I remember correctly.

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  9. LINK: http://merryslavesdiary.blogspot.com/2013/08/aug-20.html

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  10. Bad behaviour is always dealt with by a caning and my worst was a year ago and received 24 straight off on a cold bottom. Yes I deserved and yes my behaviour improves, for a while! I crave disciplinary spankings, simple as that.
    Martin

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    1. Hi Martin. Good to hear the behavior improves, at least temporarily. I haven't really experienced the full effect of the cane. We have tried it multiple times and obviously are not doing something right, and I don't think it is ever going to become one of my wife's favorites.

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  11. Dan The most intense and most shocking happened last year. I was working one sunday at the office and Anna called. Before she could speak I yelled and told her I didnt want to be disturbed. Then said something like " Do you understand English?' and hung up.
    About an hour and a half later Anna appeared at my office. In her hand was a belt and she read me the riot act. Finally she said "Drop your sweats and bend over your desk. If you cant do that dont bother even coming home !" Anna never threatens. She grabbed me pushed me over the desk and I still not sure how my sweats got around my ankles but the belting began. She barely spoke but any time I made an attempt to get up she pushed me back over the desk. I am not sure how long it went on. I do know i was sobbing both from the humiliation I felt as well how stupid I was to take out on Anna my frustration. When she stopped she only said "NEVER SPEAK LIKE THAT TO ME AGAIN. THE NEXT TIME YOU DO I WILL SEE YOU IN DIVORCE COURT!"
    She left me still crying. I came back home much later. There was a comforter in the living room and I knew to sleep on the couch. The next day when I tried to apologize she ignored it. Merely said " Just dont do it again! Now get upstairs and I'll put some salve on those bruises you must have"
    peter

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    1. Wow! Hard to say that one wasn't well earned! And, a hell of a lot smaller price to pay than divorce court.

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  12. Great that you pointed out that there is a hijacked phony porn version of the DWC website and a real one. Thanks.

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    1. There seem to be at least three. The real one, which I gave the link for. Then a blog version that someone put up when the real one was off-line for awhile, which doesn't seem to ever be updated and at least doesn't seem to be trying to profit from it. Then, at least one other one that has just taken the name and is using it for porn marketing. It is a really good lesson for bloggers. If you tire of your blog and decide to take it down, absolutely do not terminate the account unless your are OK with some dickhead coming along and taking the goodwill associated with what you built, because shortly after you terminate the account, anyone else out there can sign up for that blog name.

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  13. I'm not trying to evade this one, but after living a lifestyle like this for most of my life in one form or another, there have simply been too many bad ones to narrow it down to one. What I will also add is part of the problem choosing a 'worst' out of the main 'bad ones' is that they were all bad for slightly different reasons.

    I would say the most 'extensive' was one I've written about before where Rosa imposed a series of spankings along with lines, and several revoked privileges.

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    1. I am actually in the same boat, even though we have been practicing this for less time than you and Rosa. My wife does not do maintenance, and all of them are hard. The variations in hardness really have more to do with the tools she uses. The ones that are more memorable tend to be so for some reason other than their severity, such as location or something else about the surrounding circumstances.

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    2. Yes, I get what you mean. How bad everyone felt, how stern the tone was, how intense the atmosphere, the reason for it, accompanying add-on punishments......all seem to create a 'worst' feeling more than the actual pain................though that IS a factor as well!

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  14. Interesting and coincidental link between Anticipation and the Worst in that I commented a couple of weeks ago on how I was anticipating, that day, to be made to pay for some rudeness. As it turned out we had visitors, a busy few days and the anticipation grew, aided by the regular 'Don't think you've got away with it' type comments. It was almost a week later that we had the initial 'chat' about my behaviour, my disrespect and how what was about to happen had been building up for some time. (A bit unfair as it had only been about 10 days since my last 'reset'. As I responded to the order to 'get in position' - bare, over some pillows on the bed she placed just the strap (quite a heavy strap from the London Tanners) on the bed and clearly within my sight as she calmly relayed a list of misdemeanours in addition to the main crime. Normally I only feel the strap either at the end or for a particularly bad behaviour.

    The telling off lasted a good 5 minutes and then picking up the strap she told me how she really felt like I deserved it this time, that she was very calm and that she knew it would do me good. With that began the longest spanking, by a long way, that I have ever had. Disturbingly she stopped every now and again to remind me why and how much she felt it was deserved and then carried on and on. What made this time different was the clear control, the calmness and the almost clinical, metronomic strapping that seemed to make time

    It took me some time to recover when she finally finished telling me that she would happily do it again tomorrow if there was any repeat. We went for a walk later which was uncomfortable - for me, as I could feel the rawness with each step.

    6 days later I still have the marks which I can still feel when I sit. I have been as good as gold since and she has that knowing look most of the time.

    That was the worst - so far.

    TB

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  15. Hi TB. As bad as it was, it sounds like it was exactly what you both needed.

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  16. TB: How do you feel about having received that spanking and seeing that "knowing look most of the time"?

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    1. Good question. It feels like a boundary has been crossed. A genie is out of the bottle which may be difficult to get back in or control. To date I have felt mostly in control - now it feels like control has really passed to her because she has explored new limits and has seen the effect. Interesting times ahead I think but for now I am keeping my head down, minding my Ps & Qs and being rather submissive!

      TB

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  17. I didn't think I had to contribute to this discussion, being widowed at this point and only having had spanking in our relationship at a kinky play level, (my interest -- though lovingly accepted and accommodated by B.). Upon reflecting I realized there was a spanking I got from the only other girlfriend I'd gotten up the nerve to share my spanko predilection with that qualifies.

    In that relationship the spankings were all at the erotic play level until one day she took it to another level. Her daughter lived with her so she was often there when Debbie and I where spending time together. One day Debbie, went out to do some shopping leaving her daughter and I at her apartment watching tv. Well being a science fiction fan I wanted to watch Star Trek TNG, which the daughter had no interest in, after a short back and forth over the remote, I got so pissed I just got up and drove home to watch it at my house, in fact, I was so pissed I left without my shoes! Well, the next time we had the apartment to ourselves we were fooling around in the bedroom when paddle came out and she teasingly warmed my bottom in her slow, playful way, occasionally dragging her naked bosom over ever warming rear. She got me into quite a state with this and then offered to take me to the living room where she could paddle me over the knee, something she knew I enjoyed.

    Putting on a skirt and "re-harnessing the puppies" as she put it, she left me naked, and had me precede her to the living room. I crept passed the kitchen a little nervously as the next building had a window that look in and I didn't want to be seen naked. It was then that I got a clue that should have warned me of what was to come as Debbie gave me a damn hard crack with the paddle as we went by. In the living room she sat on a low footstool and invited me over her lap. In our playful otk spankings before, she used this playful technique where you rub the paddle slowly in a spiral until you reach the spiral's center, and then you deliver the spank, it keeps things slow and bearable. This is what I was expecting but not what I got, that paddle must have rose all the way up in the air for a set of 36 full on delivered smacks. She then dropped the paddle on the floor and proceeded to tell me how mad she was at my behavior over the tv, all accompanied with a steady rain of hand delivered spanks to my butt. I'd always considered Debbie's hand spankings pretty weak, but on top of the paddling and powered by her anger, these where really painful. So painful, that my free hand shot back and tried to protect my rear, pretty much to no avail as she was quite good at spanking where the hand was not. Eventually it got so painful that I said to her, "I think I'm going to have to ask you to stop", which she did. Of course, even at that time, there was a part of me that wanted her to bend my arm up my back to get the hand out of the way, put me in a leglock, and retrieve the paddle from the floor and just repeat the whole sequence a few more times. This wan't the hardest spanking I ever got, but those have all been deliver in play at spanking events, this was the only one meant as punishment inside of a relationship.

    Clev_Tom

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  18. Tom's insight is so interesting to me. He said "even at that time, there was a part of me that wanted her to bend my arm up my back to get the hand out of the way, put me in a leglock, and retrieve the paddle from the floor and just repeat the whole sequence a few more times"

    We are always desperate for it to stop when the spanking is going on. But at the end of the day, we want the disciplinary experience to be very through and beyond our control.

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