Hi all. Welcome back to the Disciplined Husbands Forum, our weekly gathering place for individuals and couples who are participating or interested in Domestic Discipline and FLR relationships. I hope you all had a great week.
We had some good contributions last week on spanking related phrases that are meant to get our attention, deliver a warning, let us know what we have coming, etc. Here is my compilation, with some slight editing on my part. I will also post these in the Tips & Methods secction:
I'll give you something to cry about.
Did you hear what I said?
Not as sorry as you are going to be.
We will discuss this later.
Bring me the paddle.
Down on all fours and don't get up until I see tears of remorse.
I don't see tears. Does that mean you need the cane?
So what did he do this time?
I am going to blister your behind.
I am going to set your bottom on fire.
You are going to be much sorrier.
I bet you will be good - after I finish blistering your behind.
I sure hope you won't do it again - God help you if you do.
Stop? (with increduality) Oh no, dear, we're just getting started.
You really should be ashamed that I'm having to paddle your behind like this - will you ever grow up?
Of course it hurts - you should have remembered that before misbehaving again.
There are no limits on my authority to spank you, anytime, anyplace for any reason –got that.
You have a naughty little boy inside you and when he comes out it’s my job to teach him how to behave.
You are going to be severely punished.
Lose it. (referring to a pre-spanking erection)
Do you want me to take you upstairs and pull your pants down?
One more word and I will ...
You are going to get such a sore bottom when we get home.
You just carry on with that attitude, just carry on...
We are going upstairs now as you definitely need a resetting.
I'll take care of that.
You know that's punishable.
You're too smart for your britches, and those britches are coming down.
Assume the position.
Time to bring me the paddle.
I promise this is going to be ass blistering that you won't soon forget - you'll be lucky if you can sit down for the next week."
Now go cut me a switch.
Of course it hurts. It is supposed to hurt.
Our company should be here soon, dear. Time to bring me the paddle so we can make sure you remember to behave.
And you're going to be even sorrier.
Why don't we discuss this at length, on Friday over dinner.
This week's topic was suggested in a recent comment. It is "undeserved" punishment. Have you ever been given a disciplinary spanking for something you felt you didn't deserve? Perhaps "caught" doing something you really didn't do? Or someone else was the real offender? Or, maybe you did something that wasn't contrary to any clearly set rule, but it was something that annoyed or aggravated your HoH, so they disciplined you for it unexpectedly? In those circumstances, how did you react? How did it make you feel? Humbled? Resentful? Respectful?
I can't think of a circumstance where I have been punished by her for something I really didn't do or something that I didn't know was a problem for her. The closest I can think of is a situation where I repeatedly left a chore undone, or done half-assed, and she finally had enough, ordered a spanking, and delivered a very, very hard one that evening. It was not that it was "undeserved" per se, but this chore was not so much something assigned to me under some express rule, but something I have just always done. Moreover, giving a very hard spanking for not doing a chore was not a direction either of us had taken things in up until that point. So, perhaps the right word is "unexpected" as opposed to "undeserved." In terms of how I reacted, there was perhaps some resentment as I pulled by pants up over my very sore bottom that night, but there was also an offsetting respect. Admiration is another good word to describe it. I felt proud of her for addressing a situation that was pissing her off, and doing it strongly and decisively. That reaction was one indication I had that we might have approached a fork in the road, going from something purely DD to something more FLR-oriented, with her setting the tone and direction and taking action where she thought appropriate, not just to address a violation of some rule we had expressly agreed to.
It also would be more than a little disingenuous for me to get too upset about being punished for something I didn't deserve given that, on balance, I have engaged in way more bad behavior that has gone unpunished that I should not have gotten away with. So, being punished where not strictly deserved could be looked at as just a balancing of the scales!
I hope you all have a great weekend.