Last week, one of our commenters gave a glimpse of an FLR system that is geared toward addressing work-related issues, not household chores and personal behavior problems. As he described it: "[W]e began a FLR relationship that is focused not on home-life but my job. Her discipline to me is about my job performance, not the chores that I do. I have to tell her how my work is going and where my shortfalls are. She punishes me for those areas where I could have done better (based upon my self-reported on my performance)."
The way this commenter described both his work life (all consuming), its impact on him, and the centrality of his work role to his family's well-being struck a chord with me. Hell, his description of his life is something I could just cut and paste into my Blogger profile description. This follows on a comment a few months ago from a guy who talked about how his stressful job caused him to flame out on those around him, which caused him to be less successful than he could have been. He eventually left that job and started his own shop, but the behavior problems got in the way. With the help of his former boss and current disciplinarian, he got his act together, started treating everyone better at work, and his productivity soared.
All of this really hits home with me. I have had a pretty successful career, but it could always be better, and the areas in which I fail tend to result from me shooting myself in the foot. Temper problems. Criticizing loudly every bit of bureaucratic stupidity. Driving everyone around me to be as "Type A" as I am. And to be perfectly honest, like most people, I don't always live up to my own standards. Too many items stay on the "to do" list for too long. My follow-through isn't always flawless. In short, there are aspects of my work-related performance that could use some help.
How about you? Have you ever used domestic discipline to address workplace issues? Are you ever punished, or do you ever punish your significant other, for misbehaving at work? For not being productive? For mistreating colleagues, subordinates or superiors? How do you find out about those problems? Whether you are the disciplinarian or the disciplined partner, what impact if any does DD have on your job role?
Have a great week.