Saturday, December 20, 2014

The Forum - Vol. 71


Hi all.  Can't you just feel 2014 winding down.  I hate to speak ill of the almost departed, but I have to admit, it has seemed like a challenging year in a lot of ways.  And while the holidays usually are my favorite time of year, this time they kind of snuck up on me, and work seems to be accelerating as we go into year-end, while all I really want is to veg out in front of a the Christmas tree with a big glass of wine.  But, some years are like that and, despite presenting some challenges, my nuclear family all made it through the year in one piece and in relatively good health and spirits.  And, that alone is much to be thankful for.

On to this week's question, which I offer in the spririt of the season (I also apologize in advance to those of our readers who don't celebrate Christmas):  Have you ever given or received a spanking or DD-themed Christmas gift?  And, what spanking  or DD gift would you most like to find under your tree Christmas morning?  At our house, Mrs. Disciplined Hubby will be getting a new rubber strap in her stocking.  While it is a practical gift, I suspect she will like it much more than a new frying pan.

I may take a break next week in honor of the Holiday Season, so here is wishing all of you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Dan

26 comments:

  1. Noooo! I actually look forward to Saturday because of you. Please don't take away my guilty pleasure. I'm not in a place where I can answer the question, but I'll be back later.

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    1. Thank you for the kind words! Who knows -- by Saturday I'll probably be bored and need some virtual friends to talk to!

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  2. Merry Christmas Dan. Enjoy the few days of vacation and time with your family

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  3. A few weeks ago my wife and I were out shopping and we went into Sur La Table. I actually had a mission there, but did not let on for a while as we looked at the stainless pots/pans and Lecruset and some great pasta dishes. I told my wife we should look at something and she followed. I got to the wooden cutting boards section and pulled out a wooden board with a handle and said, we need one of these and she agreed, no words had to be said, as she read my mind clearly. at the checkout, the item came up on the register as BOARD PADDLE. I smiled and of we went and wife said, we will keep that for a Christmas present for you. I merely thanked her. It is now five days from Christmas and I am looking forward to her using it on my bottom.
    Baxter

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  4. Several years ago I bought Mistress a 'Trident' paddle from MC Customs. 17" long, 3" wide and 15/64" thick leather with three tails. Mistress loved it and still uses it, very effectively. It's beautifully made and packs are real stinging whack - as I found out that evening and have become very well acquainted with it over the years. And it's in as good condition now as the day I bought it.

    I'd love to find a well-worn, authentic, two tail Lochgelly tawse under the tree - or even a Manx birch. I'd love a real tawse in our collection - purely as the tawse is one of those iconic instruments of correction. To find a real one now is hard - and the prices are astronomical. MC Customs make a faithful replica though. As for a Manx birch - I think that's something would could furnish any time from some nice whippy hazel twigs.

    This Christmas though I'll be happy enough to accept a few whacks with the Trident paddle before we set off for the day with the presents to have dinner at Mistress' parents.

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    1. Enjoy the Trident, and I hope Santa leaves a tawse under the tree.

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  5. Dan
    Have a lovely holiday. Take the time you need. This blog has been one of the best and I hope you realize what an important contribution you are making. I would tell you what Peter is getting for Christmas but he reads this blog. I promise you it is a good one that I will share after xmas.

    I wish you only good things in the new year.

    Anna

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    1. Thanks, Anna. Your kind comments are always appreciated. Thanks for all your participation. You and all the other regular contributors are what makes this blog worth the time. I hope you and Peter have agreat Christmas!

      Dan

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  6. Hello my friend and Merry Christmas to your and family. Looking forward to a wonderful new year. My answer is no, not as a Christmas present but yes as a present other times. I'm hopeful this year however.

    Merry Christmas.

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  7. Merry Christmas! This will only be my second Christmas with Shilo, and we like to give vanilla (non-kinky) gifts for most occasions, unless one is requested/suggested by the other. Of course, anything can be kinky (as mentioned by Baxter, above) so we'll see what happens. at this point, all the men in my Household will be getting pajamas because it's about 50 degrees at night in the house.

    What do I really want for Christmas? I want child #4 home and out of the hospital, and I want Shilo to feel better. I agree it's self-centered, but that's what you get for asking (LOL)

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    1. Sorry to hear you have a child in the hospital. That changing seems like a very worthy Christmas wish!

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  8. Actually, this year will see a few "kinky" gifts geared towards our FLR lifestyle, however, they are not actually implements of direct correction but rather "accessories" revolving around keeping me feeling submissive and obedient. I am aware of the gifts and was involved in their choosing but they haven't arrived yet. I retired on 12/1 and as such, we have discussed "ramping up" my domestic duties and expectations. Along with that practical development we also discussed coming up with a sort of submissive "uniform"............one that would be practical yet have an embarrassing edge without actual flagrant nudity or offensive exposure. The result was a full-front apron in a tasteful though feminine retro-polka dot theme and several pouch panties.

    Despite the way this seems, neither of us are really into full-fledged cross-dressing or feminization. (Hell...at 6'3" and bearded, I'd make a frightfully ridiculous woman!) Rather Rosa says putting me in panties makes her think of me as her own 'doll'. It's like a claim of ownership. As such, I do like the feeling of being 'owned' while being a bit embarrassed at wearing panties....though I get no "thrill" from it. I know there are a lot of FLRs that incorporate sissy or feminization, and while I accept and understand it, it's just not us.....though outwardly it may appear that way.

    Anyway, there will be a new apron and some new panties under the tree this year. I am nervous and excited. The thought of this new uniform is sort of submissively appealing right now.....but as with most of my submissive desires, I always find the thinking ahead is much more exciting than the moment of truth! LOL

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    1. Congratulations on the retirement. I hope you have a great holiday!

      Dan

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  9. DAN

    MY NAME IS PETER AND I AM MARRIED TO ANNA WHO CONTRIBUTES OFTEN TO THIS BLOG SITE. WRITING THIS LETTER TO YOU IS PART OF MY CHRISTMAS GIFT TO MY LOVE, ANNA.

    I AM DECLARING HERE IN A PUBLIC PLACE THAT I AM A MAN AND A HUSBAND WHO IS AN EXCELLENT PROVIDER AND AT THE SAME TIME IN GREAT NEED OF A FIRM HAND.

    AS A CHILD I WAS OFTEN SPANKED BY AN OLDER AUNT WHO WAS OUR CARETAKER. THEY WERE BARE BOTTOMED AND OFTEN INVOLVED SOME
    FORM OF HUMILIATION. I TEND TO BE IN LIFE WHAT IS CALLED A TYPE A.
    AS ANNA REVEALED HERE AT ONE POINT I WENT TO A PROFESSIONAL WOMAN
    WHO SPANKED ME. THERE WAS NEVER SEX INVOLVED AND YET THERE WAS
    ALWAYS AN EROTIC ASPECT TO IT.

    NOW MY ANNA SPANKS AND DISCIPLINES ME. HERE IS MY PLEDGE TO HER.

    I PROMISE TO ACCEPT A DISCIPLINARY SESSION PROMPTLY WITHOUT QUESTIONING IF IT IS FAIR OR NOT.

    I WILL TELL ANNA WHEN I FEEL THAT NEED THAT SO OFTEN PRECEDES MY ACTING OUT AND AS SHE CALLS THEM A TEMPER TANTRUM.

    I WILL TRY TO GIVE IN ENOUGH TO ALLOW TEARS TO FALL. BUT WHEN THEY DONT PLEASE KNOW IN MY HEART TEARS ARE FLOWING.

    ANNA YOU ARE AND WILL ALWAYS BE MY GODDESS.

    peter

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    1. Hello Peter...

      What a Lovely gift! Merry Christmas to your household!

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    2. Welcome Peter. Or, as your wife tells it, my doppelganger! You and I seem to be living very parallel lives. I totally understand your need as a Type A for that firm hand. To have someone impose boundaries we have trouble imposing on ourselves. Without knowing you, I get the feeling you know what it's like to need someone else's control precisely becauseyou must exercise so much control in your daily life, mainly just to keep yourself in check.

      In any event, last time you joined, it was because Anna made you do it as a "punishment." I hope this time it was voluntary, and I hope you'll join again soon.

      Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you and to Anna.

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  10. And for Dan:

    It's the day before Christmas, and all through my home,
    the dogs are napping, the kitties, they roam.

    Shilo is sleeping, all snug in his bed,
    He had to work, but he's been fed.

    Child #4 is getting dressed, he's home, and better, and I feel blessed!

    A hearty thanks to you I send, my naughty, naughty internet friend.

    And as I leave to finish my shopping. Merry Christmas to all, and, remember: No hopping!

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    1. Merry
      I thank you for your kind words. It was very hard for me to actually leave that comment. Only good things to you and yours in the New Year!
      peter

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  11. Sorry, off topic but maybe a good topic question for future forums. For men in long term DD's are their times or patterns when you get in trouble much more often than normal. I just got my third spanking this month an hour ago for a stunt I pulled yesterday after not even getting a warning since late summer. This happens every year around the holidays and I don't seem to be able to prevent it. Do others have this experience or am I just as my wife says " hopeless" when it comes to avoiding spankings this time of year

    Alan

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  12. Hi Alan. I hope you had a great Christmas. Though, it sounds like you bottom is probably redder than Rudolf's nose. In my case, I tend to do more to deserve a spanking this time of year, largely because of all the holiday socializing. But, that same socilazing also gets in the way of her delivering the needed discipline, becaus we just have so many other things going on.

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    1. Maybe that's what I am missing, adding social events to the calendar, so many she " forgets" ( I wish)
      Alan Happy Holidays

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  13. Seasons Greetings everybody!

    I have some questions. I am new to this lifestyle, only being in it for a couple of years since I retired.

    kdpierre, what are "pouch panties"?

    I am not sure if this is the right place to ask this, but have any of you changed your surname later in your marriage to your wife's maiden name? My wife resented having to change her name and wants to go back to her maiden name and have me assume it too. I am struggling with this a lot. I want to please her, and the idea is kind of "hot", but it also makes me very nervous. Does anyone have any advice.

    I too like the idea of some kind of humiliating but not too gross "uniform" for my new life as a househusband. I was thinking of starting by wearing women's slacks with a zip at the back, if I can find a pair.

    I have never really been into spanking, because I have a low pain threshold, but some kind of uncomfortable position or activity might make a good regular punishment for me when I forget myself. Suggestions are welcome for my wife to consider.

    Thanks and Best Wishes to All.

    Eric W.

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    1. Pouch panties are otherwise very regular or feminine-looking panties with a pouch sewn into the front to accommodate the male genitalia, thus preventing the chronic "falling out" problem when wearing actual women's panties.Initially Rosa would just pass along panties of her own for me to wear as her 'doll'. Then she began to buy panties she found funny or cute for me. These will be the first time we will be trying panties that look like ladies' panties but are actually made for men.

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