Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Encouraging our DW Contributors

This is a short reminder and a bit of a kick in the pants to all our male contributors.  We have exactly two female contributors who join this forum on a regular basis.  Susie and Anna.  Last week Anna took up my invitation to post about how she became a Disciplinary Wife.  So, here we have a real, live disciplinary wife, and virtually no one has comment on her post or asked her any follow-ups.  If we want more of the women in our lives to feel comfortable posting on the blog, we need to encourage it by getting in there and communicating with them.  So, come on!  Scroll down one topic and bombard Anna with comments and questions.

Susie, fair warning.  You're up next. ;-)

Dan

17 comments:

  1. I have a question or two for Anna. First of all I would like to thank her for her super contribution. Anna, I was wondering if spanking Peter at the office wasn't a bit high risk. The potential for being caught seems quite high. It made me wonder if there could be something of a thrill factor in there somewhere for either or both of you ?

    Also, I would like to know how what your feelings are before, during and after the punishment. You say that there is never any sex yet Peter often begs to service you while denying himself. Is this a request that you grant and if so is there any difference in the sexual experience for you in the context of having just whipped him ?

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  2. Tommy
    Thanks for the compliment. Spanking him at the office has always happened well after hours. His career calls often for long hours and when spanked at work it usually occurs after 10 pm when all are gone. Only once a cleaning woman came upon us but we managed to adjust clothing etc before she entered the office. Of course there is that element of danger and wont deny there have been times I have wished perhaps the owner of his firm might walk in on us. My husband is brilliant but can be a pain. I am sure if the man walked in he would smile.

    As to sex after. I do from time to time allow him to orally pleasure me without relief for himself.
    Never every time of course. And I think any man can understand the thrill of being allowed to only think of ones own pleasure. I will say he approaches me after a session with such loving and selfless passion.

    anna

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  3. The element of danger eh - Ha ! I think that you are thrill seekers Anna ! I am most interested in the other part of my question to you: I would like to know how what your feelings are before, during and after the punishment. Is there any difference in the sexual experience for you in the context of having just whipped him ?

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    1. I will ignore the snide Ha! You are of course entitled to your opinion or your fantasy.
      As to my feelings before I always feel I am nipping in the bud bad behavior that affects and effects our home life. During I am always feeling that I am communicating with a man who seems to need this to understand how he behaves colors the lives who live around him There is a feeling of power of course and as it draws to an end when I see
      him submit and let go, i feel gratitude that we have found a way for this all to work.
      Our sex for the next few days is so filled with love and concern for each other. Mostly after we find ourselves laughing .

      anna

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    2. Anna that was a very long way from what you describe as being a 'snide ha'. I said 'ha' because I was amused by what you said regarding the sense of danger of being at the office and what I said I said/wrote with a smile. I don't think anything I have ever posted here could be described as being snide or unpleasant. I think i was gently teasing you a bit but I guess that's not always so easy to convey in print.

      Thank you for going on to answer the remainder of what I asked. I find what you have to say fascinating and I am glad you are here.

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    3. Tommy
      I am sorry for misreading your intent. Thanks and a swat on your bottom.

      anna

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    4. entirely undeserved; but gratefully received ! :)

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  4. It's Susie.

    You have something a little different from me in your inbox. I hope you like it!

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  6. My husband and I have been reading your blog and I have read with interest the comments from Anna and Susie. Our DD relationship was sparked by my mother cornering my husband one day when they were the only ones home. There had been some warnings but he had ignored them and I took them to be just talk. My mom spanked me and my brothers growing up and in retrospect I think she may have spanked my dad. What my husband described was exactly what we kids got, a lecture about our wrong doing followed by a hard bare hair brush spanking followed by corner time. Jacob was 20 when this happened and he was a exec by how he reacted before during and after. I hated being spanked but the idea of spanking Jacob seemed exciting and he seemed to find some comfort in the idea of me spanking him. Over the years it has progressed into a true disciplinary arrangement with no sex . It doesn't happen that often now but when he breaks a rule I always follow through. It works as a real tool for both of us.

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  7. Hi Anonymous. Good to hear from you. We seem to be getting increasing traction with female readers such as yourself. Welcome!

    Dan

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  8. I would like to ask Anna whether she favours any particular implement when Peter has to be spanked and why that may be. And does she always punish him bare bottomed ? Also, whether there is anything in particular that she wears herself that might enhance her sense of her own authority when its time to lay down the law. In fact Dan that could possibly be a topic for another day. - wardrobe choices - just a thought. My wife has would usually choose to wear a sleeveless top or dress because having bare arms there is nothing to inhibit the motion of her arm as it administers the discipline.

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  9. Tommy

    I do not have a favorite implement. I do most often use his own belt ( a one inch wide soft leather black leather belt ) which was the very first implement I used on him. I tend to use a riding crop when I feel he has been exceedingly resistant.
    Yes he is always totally naked. He is sent to our room he removes clothing stands in middle of room hands on head and waits. I often leave him standing there for as long as 15 minutes. I do this so he understands this spanking is on my schedule.
    As to wardrobe I always wear what I have on that day. I NEVER dress in any way to make this an erotic moment. As I have stated before, after a session he stands nose to the wall, legs spread and hands folded at top of his waist. I refer to this as being " on display "

    anna

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  10. Thanks for the reply Anna ! I was wondering if you have ever noticed that Peter is aroused while he is on 'display' ?

    I was wondering too how Peter is feeling having you sharing all of this in the public domain ? Has it had any effect on his general behaviour or is he much as usual ?

    Hope you don't mind me asking so much !

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  11. Tommy

    Peter is not at all amused that I reveal as much as I have done. My response to Peter is that I am in a way his creation. He has agreed, that revealing what I do is totally up to me. It has made him think a bit before reacting. Peter's problem has always been is that too often he reacts before thinking.
    He is not usually aroused by being on display. At the beginning he did show arousal which I told him meant to me that he hadnt yet learned his lesson and therefore he would have to begin punishment again. I will confess a few weeks ago while he was on display my sister popped in on her way to town. She stopped to use our restroom. While she was in the bathroom I popped in to make sure Peter was ok. He was aroused and later confessed it was the sound of her voice and the idea she might find him like that standing naked in the middle of the room, bottom more than a bit bruised did arouse him. The moment she left i returned to bedroom and with the aid of his belt removed the erection quickly. I WANT HIM TO KNOW THIS IS PUNISHMENT NOT EROTICA.

    anna

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  12. Anna, I get your drift. I and others here would recommend the cane to you as one of the best ways to get Peter's attention. There are few experiences as truly salutary as a vigour caning applied by a lady who knows her business. I presume that you have not yet caned Peter as I don't think that you included a cane as being amongst your collection. I may be wrong however .....

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  13. tommy

    You are wrong the cane is a mighty weapon. I do use and and trust me when I do it is
    felt. When he sees the cane he knows he is going to be severely punished.
    Thanks for your note I so enjoy the conversations with others who share our interests.

    Anna

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