The background is fairly straightforward, and a situation most of us in corporate America have faced at one point or another. I was passed over for a new role, in favor of someone who those hiring for the role see as more compliant. Unfortunately, no matter how much I know that submission can be as important in the boardroom as in the bedroom, somehow at work I just cannot bring myself to submit to anyone, including my superiors. And, this is not the first time in my career that I have taken some kind of hit for being too outspoken and too forceful with my views.
But, here is the quandary: I was a top contender for this role, and I don't know that I would have even been in the running, had I not attracted attention in the past, and I attracted that attention by not being submissive and by not being shy about voicing my opinions. So, while a lack of discipline cost me this job, it also helped me leapfrog a lot of more experienced people who have been there a lot longer.
So, in your own life, is there any downside to becoming a more disciplined, submissive person? Has it made you more timid? Has it caused you to miss opportunities or to labor in obscurity? Conversely, for our Disciplinarians, is there a downside to you in being the controlling party? Does the responsibility sometimes become a bit much? Or, do you find your domineering and controlling role causes you problems in other parts of your life?
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