Saturday, June 15, 2013

The Forum: Question of the the Week


I hope not to make apologizing a recurrent part of this blog, but I need to once again apologize for missing a week.  Unfortunately, once again, life got busy.


This week's question:  Do you and your partner ever use things other than spankings, either as punishments or as means of exercising control or authority, as part of your DD relationship?  Chores, corner time, writing lines, being "grounded"?  Tell us about your non-spanking DD techniques. 

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14 comments:

  1. Unfortunately my Wife doesn't believe in D/s. As we both are old now (over 70), I know this will not change. Of course I try to serve Her without showing too much submissiveness, so there actually wouldn't be much reason for punishment.

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  2. When my husband displeases me, a stern look and he knows he will not be having an orgasm for a while. As for chores, I usually find him doing extra chores as a way to get redeem himself and get back into my graces.

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  3. Spanking is the core tool she uses, mostly with brush or strap. Other punishments are sometimes added to reinforce the lesson taught but they don’t substitute for spanking. Some of these reinforcements are used with almost every spanking. Corner time is an example and so is scolding. Less often she has put me in panties, given me an enema, spanked me in front of a witness ( her sister) or used her strap on. Most of these are used if I am being punished for repeat misbehavior or some chronic problem. Panties are used for arrogance. The strap on is used for challenging her authority and the enema for a bad attitude. The only exception is that she sometimes uses corner time alone but not very often and more as a warning. I think we got the idea of using reinforcements from the DWC web site but she has been using them a long time.
    Alan

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  4. Corner time....having to wear panties are two additional punishments she likes to ad

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  5. Our situation is similar to Alan's above. Other disciplinary methods are used to supplement the spanking. I sometimes get corner times if she feels reflection is in order. Occasionally I get a mouth soaping for bad language - which is always sandwiched in between two spankings, the first to subdue me so that I will be more amenable to the mouth soaping, and the another after the soaping to drive home the message. I also receive a punishment enema from time to time (3-quarter with a penis nozzle) after the paddling - this is sometimes followed by a session with the strap-on (thick 8-incher) while I'm nice and clean inside. Also, she will sometimes require me to wear a butt plug and panties for a while after the spanking (or after a strap-on session). These additional tools are always to teach me humility and remind me of our place in the disciplinary side of our relationship and are used maybe a third of the time. Neither of us believe in chastity restraint or orgasm denial - except that I am usually required to orally service her (front and back) after my spanking with no immediate reciprocation (since I have just been disciplined.) It would not be unusual after a spanking to see my face buried between between her butt cheeks with me wearing a frilly night gown and panties that covered a well blistered and well buggered behind. -Al

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  6. My wife uses all sorts of methods in addition to my canings to reinforce disciplne in our home.I always have to stand in the corner,hands on head after a caning,frequently have to sit on a hard chair doing lines,have to have a cold bath,made to sleep in the spare bedroom,and refused sex.On one occasion after being drunk in addition to daily canings for a week,I was refused sex for 3 months,plus all the other punishments

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  7. My wife uses all the above,I awlays have corner time after a caning,I regularly have to sit on a hard chair and do lines,I am made to have a cold bath,sleep in the spare room,and am denied sex at her discretion

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  8. Extra chores are a common measure in our household, especially if the infraction involves poor performance of the regular chores. Corner time is often part of a spanking, but isn't used by itself.

    My wife never uses sex denial as a punishment. She likes sex and says it would be just as much of a punishment to her as to me. We have sex whenever she is in the mood for sex regardless of how I have behaved. Of course, good behavior tends to makes it more likely that she will be in the mood. Then again, sometimes a bottom reddening session also puts her in the mood.

    I have read about wives that make their husbands wear womens clothes as a punishment. That is another one my wife opposes. She doesn't see it as humiliating at all. She believes that wearing skirts and dresses and lacy underwear is a privilege which should be reserved for women.

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  9. Just a couple of additional thoughts after my comment above (--Al). While my wife may put me in panties and night gown while I am servicing her after a spanking, she does not otherwise have my wear women's clothes - although I know that other couples do so with good effect. Also, I found Miss Jenna's blog (mentioned in a post above) interesting. While my wife has a generally different approach - more spanking and orgasm denial only immediately following the spanking - she does agree with Miss Jenna on the importance of clean-up after making love. I do not have to clean her up every time, but am required to do so on fairly regular basis. I have actually come to the point where sometimes I will go ahead and clean her out without even receiving the signal to so. --Al

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  10. My wife uses most of the extra punishments mentioned,corner time after a caning,sitting on a hard chair doing lines,being banished to the spare room,with a sex ban,sometimes for weeks,doing housework naked,even if her sister is visiting.

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  11. I've used or incorporated most of what I've read here in the comments except denial of sex.
    I'm using age regression,petticoat punishment,spanking (of course!),enemas,extra chores,corner,I also have and use a strap-on quite regularly. My sister knows and was quite instrumental introducing me to techniques,websites and her experiences. There are also another woman and man ( my sister's friends), not a couple who are dominant and know each other who are involved with us. The woman was very instrumental and hands on with us, and they both have spanked my husband.(quite soundly I might add.)
    The woman, I'll call her A, A has been a mentor to me in all of this and has even spanked me twice. The first was for not being consistant and firm enough with my husband in the beginning. The next, very recently, was for being too strong handed. I gave him a good beating across my knee for something very serious. A day or so later I insisted on our guy friend giving my husband the belt. He refused,I got angry he called A. A and I discussed it, I understood where they were coming from, saw the error of my ways and apologized to my husband. That was after A gave me the spanking of my life! Once My husband's bottom was better he got the strap from our guy friend. He does not like getting discipline from another guy but oh well, I'm in charge.
    Allison

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  12. I only receive punishment spankings for breaking her major rules. For minor offenses, I get mouth soaping for foul language – loss of TV privileges, early bedtime, and additional chores. Quite often she feels I have neglected her especially if we have been to a social function and get ‘talking to the guys’ and paying her too little attention. She will let me know her disappointment and suggest I make up for my lack of attentiveness. I have come to understand that she wants me to shower her with interest by giving her foot rubs, body massages and her favorite … oral sex. Most times I am denied orgasms or have to masturbate for her but never to completion.

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  13. After years of bickering my wife confronted me recently telling me that her sister suggested that I was rude and had used a racial slur at a recent family gathering. She said that her sister had suggested that a good spanking would do me some good. I thought she was joking and agreed to "take a spanking" to my surprise my wife had purchased something called a tawse . She told me to pull my pants down and as I looked at her expression and that tawse I had second thoughts. As she now looked really angry I tentatively complied. She whacked me a few dozen times leaving me really sore and sorry. While I was nursing my ego and my behind she she told me for using bad language she was going to wash my mouth with a bar of ivory soap. When I refused to open my mouth she reached for the tawse. I quickly opened my mouth. Now I know the rules.

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  14. In addition to spankings, I am often given corner time. In my case this is a terrible punishment as I have to wear a humbler. As you know, this makes it almost impossible to stand upright as this devilish device exerts an extreme pull on the testicles which increases dramatically the nearer you get to being vertical. I wear a large pair of panties which cover the humbler and my genitalia. My Mistress enjoys looking at my apparently emasculated body as the offending appendages are pulled back between my legs. If I fail to remain upright, I am made to lie face down on the floor, which is even more painful. Any further mistakes on my part, result in a severe hand spanking to my trapped balls.

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